What are the advantages and disadvantages of being in a relationship? (lemmy.nz)

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[-] Kimdracula@sh.itjust.works -1 points 3 months ago

I've said this before, my mother and father weren't friends. Yet they were married for 11 years. That's more than many friends being married. Is not necessary.

[-] all-knight-party@kbin.run 4 points 3 months ago

It's not necessary, no, but it can totally be a pro, unless you just don't want to be friends with your lover.

[-] Kimdracula@sh.itjust.works -2 points 3 months ago

Basically what I've said, some people don't want friends.

[-] Pandantic@midwest.social 4 points 3 months ago

So are you a loner or you don’t want a friend who is constantly around?

[-] Kimdracula@sh.itjust.works -1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I don't wanna people around besides my partner and I don't want her relatives around me. It seems like these days is impossible to have a relationship that is just you and your woman, or you and your man and that's it. There's always someone else.

[-] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 4 points 3 months ago

How exactly do you expect to find someone who you want to be around when you by your own admission hate literally all interactions with other people? Newsflash: sex is a social interaction. Are you imagining that she's just going to pop out of a lamp like a Genie? And where does she go after you blow your load? Do you just put her back in the closet like a blow-up doll?

Just admit that what you really want is a sex worker and be honest. It sounds like you have no interest in tolerating someone else's presence unless they are actively banging you. A relationship is about so much more than just sex.

[-] Pandantic@midwest.social 3 points 3 months ago

So does that extend to her friends as well? Or is it just family you have a problem with? Also, is it about family that is constantly around and in your business or just that the family feels like they’re part of the relationship too?

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