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[-] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 month ago

One thing that can tangibly help is to lay out the consequences of inaction. Just knowing the worst case (among likely outcomes) can help reduce anxiety substantially. Then assess how much control you have in addressing the problem and getting a better outcome, and how much effort that will cost you vs the consequences.

A lot of anxiety comes from the unknown. We may not be able to completely unmask the unknown, but we can often estimate the consequences. For example:

  • climate change
    • worst case: weather patterns will get worse, and life in 50-ish years may totally suck
    • options to mitigate problems: move, make more money to afford more mitigations
    • control over preventing the problems: vote, reduce own consumption (minimal impact)
  • job loss
    • worst case: can't afford rent or food, so homelessness possible
    • options to mitigate problems: expand circle of friends (more couches to surf), save up cash, get a side gig or two to fall back on
    • control over preventing the problem: work for a stable company, improve skills
  • break up w/ SO
    • worst case: heartbreak, possible depression, ugly breakup could also hurt financially
    • options to mitigate problems: separate expenses, keep contact w/ friends, practice healthy behaviors (exercise, engaging hobbies, etc)
    • control over preventing the problem - open dialogue, go on regular dates w/ SO, ask friends for warning signs

And so on. If you can identify the worst case scenarios and your options, it's a lot easier to manage anxiety. Doing that can be uncomfortable, but it's basically what a therapist will do with you, so it's a great skill to learn.

[-] nehal3m@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

This is a great technique, usually referred to as negative visualisation. Epictetus put it like this:

Hold death and exile and all that seems dreadful before your eyes every day, but most of all death: and you will never think of anything bad or desire anything too much.

Memento mori.

[-] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 0 points 1 month ago

Sounds like a good way to develop a suicidal ideation problem.

[-] nehal3m@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago

Quite the opposite. It lets you forget the unimportant things and the constant realization that your time on this earth is finite will drive you to live life to the fullest.

[-] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 0 points 1 month ago

I don't do it on purpose but I find myself comparing my problems to death fairly regularly and death doesn't always seem much worse. The fact that my time is limited and I have to spend so much of it just making the money I need to survive doesn't help.

[-] nehal3m@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago

I don’t have all the answers, and if budget allows it maybe you should talk to someone about that. That said there were times where waking up disappointed me and the following has changed me. There is another stoic attitude that says something like suppose you have died and you find yourself at the pearly gates. Peter decides you’re not done yet and he’s sent you back. That’s you today. The rest of your days are just gravy.

[-] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Love this. Could I actually copy this to wtdiycat.vercel.app (work in progress) with attribution to your username and a link to this comment? Not sure where exactly I'd put it yet though. Edit: probably the "Check the Facts" skill, I always sucked at that one and I think that's why this explanation really struck me as helpful.

[-] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago

Sure, knock yourself out. :)

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