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[-] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 16 points 2 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

As a queer amab person who finally made peace with being queer and trans very late in life (at about 30), I think I skipped the twink window, and I've never felt hot enough to exist in queer circles. I've always felt ugly (sled esteem issues and body dysphoria don't help), but being over 30 and not having perfect skin, a tight body and amazing fits? Might as well be straight and cis.

[-] ashinadash@hexbear.net 19 points 2 days ago

who finally made peace with being queer and trans very late in life (at about 30),

Sorry, this made me chuckle. It's sickening that some kind of weird 20somethings-only culture has popped up and made people think this way. Ageism in queer communities is a sick joke. 30's not even old.

[-] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Yeah I realized how silly it looks when I wrote it, but to me it feels late because I spent all my adolescence and 20s just feeling like shit for what I thought was no reason, while trying to fit in into cis and heteronormative society instead of embracing the fact that I'm different and that's OK.

Doesn't help that I might as well be a dinosaur in most queer spaces around my area, coming back to the original point, where I don't feel like I fit in because everyone is beautiful and young and I'm... Not.

[-] ashinadash@hexbear.net 3 points 1 day ago

yea Many such cases unfortunately

Smh though that means your local spaces must be practically kid zones, oof.

[-] magi@hexbear.net 9 points 2 days ago

being over 30 and not having perfect skin, a tight body and amazing fits

I'm in my 40s and have all this screm-cool

Badass. I kinda gave up at this point. Got much more pressing stuff to worry about.

[-] SpiderFarmer@hexbear.net 10 points 2 days ago

I almost exclusively "dated" older women in those twink years. I'm sure you look great. Granted, I stayed a twink so long partially due go obsessively working out due to equal parts endorphins/self-esteem issues.

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