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That's exactly the rhetoric that makes it so hard for men to talk about domestic violence.
Confused...? Which part?
I think he's objecting to "why couldn't you stop someone smaller and weaker from abusing you?".
Maybe, but there's stopping an adult with an actual intent to harm you versus just picking up someone you could probabbly carry under one arm. At some point if you can't do that well, please don't get a large dog or such for a pet I guess?
Additionally, the thought was more 'how can a kid that small even muster the strength to strangle someone to begin with'.
The point is that it's not about "strength". And no matter your intend, as long as you picture such events as "whoever is physically stronger wins", you are destructive.
Why do you think it's hard for a man to fight back a female partner?
Why do you think it's hard for a teacher to fight back one of their pupils?
How easy is it for those people to talk about this trauma, if people like you go: "I don't understand how you can be threatend by someone you can pick up under your arm lmao."?
So I'm not inclined to get drug off on some distraction with an easily offended sort over the morally correct phrasing or how one should think, but I'll put it as this.
1: Abuse comes in many forms, not just physical, focusing the notion of keeping it secret and being difficult to talk about on the one most outwardly visible face of it detracts from the larger battles happening in the emotive and mental abuse space.
2: There is a material difference in physical assault perpetuated by an adult or mature child which has a level of malice and intent behind it and that done by a child which, although I'm speculating since it's not listed, would have been doing this bare handed and without a properly formed mindset to fully comprehend their own actions. A small child at that age likely weighs somewhere under 60 pounds and has hands of relevant size. At some point a person simply needs to be able to fend for themselves or be considered incapable of dealing with a situation, be that in physically resisting or in correcting the behavior of the kid to begin with.
A teacher shouldn't have to plan for a kid bringing a gun to class, that's fully on the parents being negligent, but if you work with kids, particularly young ones that haven't properly learned control of their emotions yet, it should be expected that you're going to get kicked in the shins here and again and be capable and prepared to deal with that.