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tfw someone just steals feelings out of your brain and puts them to words (slrpnk.net)

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[-] BrotherL0v3@lemmy.world 21 points 21 hours ago

Hi. I failed out of college, in no small part due to undiagnosed ADHD. I wanna offer a little pushback.

I can't tell if you want to change society to be less punishing to neurodivergent people, or if your whole thesis is "People with ADHD have little to no trouble in society today".

If it's the former: not treating people who are struggling is not the way to change society. Accepting for the sake of argument that ADHD people "pay attention to different things"; paying attention to some things is critical to my ability to thrive. I would love to live in a world where I could just do what I thought was important and still have my needs taken care of, but unfortunately I'm stuck needing to pay attention to stupid bullshit I don't care about in order to make a living, and that's a tremendous struggle without medication.

If it's the latter: Jesus Christ, talk to someone with ADHD.

And finally: I take issue with your metaphor at the end. What do you think is present in an unmedicated person with ADHD that is somehow missing in a medicated person?

[+] Varyk@sh.itjust.works -13 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

"less punishing to neurodivergent people"

I mostly agree with this.

"People with ADHD have little to no trouble in society today"

i disagree, that is antithetical to my previous comment.

that said, neurotypical or divergent, if you don't have trouble in society today, I want to know more about your society.

"not treating people who are struggling is not the way to change society"

yes, and neither is treating people who don't wish to be treated or are treated unnecessarily.

are you sure you're responding to the right comment? I haven't said many of the things you are arguing against so far.

"and that's a tremendous struggle without medication"

then according to my previous comment, you are one of the extreme cases that need and want intervention, and should receive it.

"I take issue with your metaphor at the end"

I gather from your preceding assumptions and arguments against things that I have not said, along with your general combative tone, that you have been quixoticaly swept up in an imagined narrative that you feel you must do battle with.

"What do you think is present in an unmedicated person with ADHD that is somehow missing in a medicated person?"

missing? nothing.

[-] BrotherL0v3@lemmy.world 4 points 14 hours ago

Combative? Take a look in the mirror pal.

I guess I'm ultimately confused about what you're arguing for. My ADHD is by no means "extreme"; trouble focusing at work or school is one of the baseline things you're unlikely to get diagnosed without. I can't imagine any reasonable person advocating for medicating people who don't stand to benefit from it, which seems to be the motte to your bailey.

[-] Varyk@sh.itjust.works -5 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

"Combative?"

yup.

"Take a look in the mirror pal."

thank you! that was a nice break.

"I guess I'm ultimately confused about what you're arguing for."

I would suggest asking the source for clarification or further information rather than misattributing assumptions and then arguing against those assumptions, none of which are present in the comment you are confused by and subsequently railing against.

"I can't imagine any reasonable person advocating for medicating people who don't stand to benefit from it"

tolerant place you're from.

"seems to be the motte to your baile"

how so?

My original comment isn't controversial and I didn't switch positions either.

is this a gaslighting attempt?

are you lighting my gas?