I very much know how other people feel about it, we can be different and both our opinions can still be valid. I don't think at any point in there I said that everyone is wearing their headset 16 hours a day.

But the matter remains that one headset has sold 4x as much as the steamdeck, and the second most sold is 2-3x as much as the steam deck... so why is the steam deck considered a good seller and VR is considered dying?

I was just making a pre-emptive counterpoint to the arguments people usually make against VR. That the headsets "aren't comfortable", which has been less and less true for the out of the box experience over time, and has never been true for people that are willing to tailor the experience to their individual headshape and preferences. I have always worn my headsets for 8+ hours even right from the dk2 days, first step: battery bank on the back, to get the weight counter balanced and for older headsets a different choice of facial interface was often a good idea. Eventually, once I tried a few options, I determined my personal best comfort came from "halo" style headstraps. So I have since just been buying BoBoVR's kit for each headset I buy that is an all-in-one cenversion kit to take headsets from 2 hours of play time to infinity with no other adjustment needed.

I think honestly most people have only tried VR once or twice, and don't even know what state it is in now. The Quest 3 crossed a threshold, now that you can use it as a 4k 120hz screen, it's the first headset I would say is clear enough that normal people would find it worth using. I do still think the tech barrier is a bit too high. I'm very aware that if I didn't show her how, my Mom would have had trouble figuring out on her own how to do virtual calls with my sister in New Zealand. But she very much appreciates being able to sit in the same room as her and have face to face conversations now. And even though desktop streaming is something built right into the headset, the default option isn't the one that would sell people on it, Virtual Desktop is so much better. If in the future that becomes the default, and the desktop streaming client half of it is just baked into the headset software. Or if the default solution just learns from Virtual Desktop and at least looks as good as it even without all the extra bells and whistles... either one would be a huge help. The built-in desktop streamer just hasn't been revisited since the screens are clear enough to actually see 4k, so it's still unoptimised and kind of muddy looking.

But, my Mom did figure out on her own how to launch and play Tetris Effect, she loves it. Also Puzzling Places and Cubism. My mom is a bit of a gamer though. She doesn't like anything with killing, but she has made some exceptions like for Stardew Valley. My Dad on the other hand still needs me to launch games for him from the phone app, hehe. He just "doesn't want to break it", to be fair he prefers the Quest pro, which is still a pretty expensive headset. So I can understand his hesitation, he's used to windows 95... where you very much could break it by clicking the wrong thing. But he loves city building games, and there are a few good ones to choose from in VR. Cities:Skylines VR for "professional" city building ported to VR, and Little Cities for "fun" city building made for VR first are his favourites so far.

My brother only really got into it when I gave their family my old Quest 2, he still just plays the default "normal people" games like beatsaber and other exercise stuff. But he doesn't have his VR legs yet, he does want to play adventure/rpg games with me, but they tend not to have comfort settings, as they would be kinda ruined with teleporting and stuff. I explained to him how to go about training for not needing the safety features any more, but he keeps taking it too far any time he tries, he likes the games so much that he doesn't want to stop playing so soon when he first starts feeling the symptoms. But that is the most important part, otherwise you are working to make your VR sickness worse instead...

So yeah, there are definitely hurdles still. Maybe there should be supervised programs for getting your VR legs. You very much need to stop as soon as you notice the very first symptom for you, usually face flush, but can be different per person. The earlier you stop, the more you convince your brain it doesn't need to "save you from the poison berries". The bodies reaction to a vestibular mismatch is to assume you must have eaten poison, and it should save you by throwing up. But you can train it to leave you alone. Done well, you can gain as much as 5 more minutes of playtime each attempt. Doesn't take long until you don't even have to think about it any more.