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Abuse is abuse rule (lemmy.world)
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[-] kameecoding@lemmy.world 61 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

This reminds me of the Heard v Depp case, on the two X chromosomes subreddit there was this long ass comment from someone who experienced abuse and said she wasn't the "perfect victim" because she fought back and hurt her abuser back and how because of this it was harder to get away from her abuser.

And when I asked how does she know that in Heard v Depp case it isn't Depp who is the imperfect victim? Because he had multiple partners testifying to his character of being a kind man etc, while Heard had the opposite (AFAIK).

All I got was silence and downvotes.

[-] drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world 17 points 2 weeks ago

And the men's lib sub is the best we will get when it comes to men's issues and that one sucks too.

[-] Thebeardedsinglemalt@lemmy.world 30 points 2 weeks ago

The mens rights sub originally was a good place for dudes who were getting taken to the cleaners in divorce court, losing full custody of the kids just because the mom wanted em, and even an instance iirc of the wife taking the dog only to have em put down later.

Then it slowly mutated into a watered down version of incels

[-] Hacksaw@lemmy.ca 20 points 2 weeks ago

I mean that's bound to happen. If the main thing that draws you to a space is that you're all being abused by women in one way or another, then it's probably going to end up being a place to hate on women and therefore attract women haters like incels.

Men's lib should be a space where we fight the injustices imposed on men by the dominant hierarchy. Like the fact that we're assumed to be worse at caring for our kids than their mothers and that this assumption disadvantages us in court. Or the fact we're assumed to be abusers and that being a victim somehow makes us be seen as lesser men and automatically deserving of the abuse we get (like in this comic). Or the fact that we're assumed to BE/BE PART OF the dominant hierarchy and therefore can't be victims of it, even though we can lose our "manlyness" through something as simple or human as crying when we're sad.

Only with this mindset can we channel our victimisation into positive action rather than towards hatred of women.

Hive minds are strong remember to not rate your opinion based on how many up votes it gets

[-] AVincentInSpace@pawb.social 3 points 2 weeks ago

what then am i supposed to rate it on? /hj

[-] doingthestuff@lemy.lol 1 points 2 weeks ago

I once got a -28xx on Reddit for a comment I still don't think was even interesting. From what I understand, of their scoring algorithm at the time, that means I had a lot more downvotes than that.

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