Anyway, you're all good to go now. I know you're not a troll

It was designed to be banned.

And that's the issue.

From a new account, with no discussion history on the topic that I could find, with no previously removed posts, it looked inflammatory, and it was, deliberately so. So you got a short term ban.

If you'd been a long term user, or had a posting history that made it clear you were trying to demonstrate a point, I'd have left your account alone. But as it was, I couldn't tell you apart from a troll. I wasn't certain, which is why it wasn't permanent.

If I took issue with what you were saying, it would have been a permanent ban.

I took issue with how you said it, which is to say, you started a new "conversation" out of the blue, framed in a way designed to start an argument. And even that wouldn't have been enough to get me involved, except that you don't have a history of posting on this topic, your account is new, and I've previously removed a comment of yours for arguing with a femboy about what kind of memes he's allowed to post.

tl;dr your account has a bunch of red flags, and this post was one of them. So you got a temp ban.

I'm not going to remove someone for complaining about my moderation. Which is to say, ranting about me in this community is something I'll leave up to the community mods to deal with however they feel appropriate.

You're a month old account, approaching a topic in a way designed to maximise rage responses and arguments. Stop doing that

Feddit.uk was defederated because they did not address transphobia on their instance and stopped responding when I asked for clarification of how they will handle similar incidents in the future in light of the transphobic legislation introduced in the UK. If it becomes clear they are acting on transphobia, we will refederate.

lemmy.ml does act on transphobia and despite their admins comments in DM, I have seen no indication that transphobic posts are allowed to remain on their instance from admins or users. If it becomes clear they're not acting on transphobia, we will defederate. Either way, Nutomic will remain banned.

Which is to say, neither scenario is really contingent on the actions of an individual, rather they're contingent on how the admins respond to transphobia.

Friendica, and to a lesser extent, misskey and it's forks

Faux outrage isn't playing around though. They're not doing it for fun, they're doing it for social capital.

I don't drive, so a full tank of petrol wouldn't be of much use to me.

There's no such thing as "lazy". It's always, always, always a word used to make someone feel guilty for hitting a personal limit or threshold.

Even if you want to work on those thresholds and improve them, you can achieve that without framing yourself as fundamentally selfish and uncaring.

I thought this was meant to be on good terms? What about your post is fostering good will? It's nothing but trashing on me...

To be clear, every post and user I removed was due to queerphobia, transphobia, trolling or spam, issues that broke the instances rules. Some of that bigotry was was implicit rather than explicit, like dog whistles, tone policing etc. Some of it was the "just asking questions" transphobia that pervades most corporate owned social media spaces.

This is the way I have moderated this instance from before the time I handed this community to moss. When lemmy was just taking off, I asked for people to mod the 196 community after it was abandoned by its original creators, and passed it over to moss when she raised her hand.

So if the goal is for this to be civil, maybe don't paint me as the bad guy for moderating in a way I have done from before your community was created here. What feels like "moderating by vibes" to you, is lengthy experience with community development, and a decade navigating queer and gender diverse communities, and knowing what I want from them. As moss said, this is ideological differences in how low grade transphobia and queerphobia should be dealt with. moss is ok with community pushback for the low grade stuff rather than moderation, whereas I'll just remove it.

That's what I wouldn't compromise on, and that has been the way the instance has run for years now.

It feels like every time I extend 196 a hand, you bite it. I gave the community to moss and started this whole thing. I told another instance admin no when they asked 196 to remove their banner. moss then went and leaked the DMs from said admin, forcing me to remove the post, and then had a public complaint session about me for removing the post.

I have asked 196 for years now to have an active blahaj.zone mod so that someone can deal with the blahaj.zone reports that constantly come through and build up, but still, the best we got were mods with alt accounts that get checked every couple of days, leaving me to deal with the build up of reports on 196. Sometimes they would hang around there for days while I waited for a 196 mod to log in and look at them. And because you don't like the way I deal with them, you drag me over the coals for my moderation style, despite no one from 196 stepping up to deal with those reports on a regular basis.

I was told that you were thinking about moving to another instance. I offered my support if you decided to stay or to leave. And that was the last I heard of it, until one of your mods (possibly you if I remember correctly) told the community you were organising something with lemmy.world, and I had to hear that second hand. And then, when things were finalised and the decision to move was locked in, once more, I heard about it second hand, after your team made a public post, because no one from 196 could be bothered to tell me before posting.

So no, you don't get to paint me as the unreasonable admin who moderates by "vibes". If you want to point the finger at me, at least own your own mistakes, rather than asking for good will and civility and then dumping on me when the chance presents itself.

Trans people