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not having kids. I still think it was the right decision for me
Spending so much time at the computer
That one takes time to catch up with you.
Intermittent touching grass is essential. ;)
Yeeees
Same! My parents were so worried about how much time I spent at the computer. Now it's my day job (computer programmer).
dropping out of highschool. best decision I ever made tbh
I've kicked myself in the ass over that decision a lot over the years. It's far behind me now, but I still kinda regret it.
Not having kids.
being extremely fucking transgender
Never trying alcohol or drugs or cigarettes or gambling. My whole life I've had a strong intuitive sense to avoid all that stuff, and I've never even had the slightest desire. When I was in the army my colleagues would tease me that eventually some day I would crack and give in to the dark side, but nah.
Becoming atheist
Came here looking for someone saying "face tattoo". None so far.
getting a hysterectomy. this last year has proven that my foresight was indeed correct, the post right above this one is an article about the government planning to reduce or remove access to contraceptives, and no way in hell is anyone gonna make me be pregnant. i was extremely lucky to find a surgeon who would do it since i have no kids and was under thirty at the time.
It is extremely concerning how many surgeons are happy to sterilize men on request, but push back HARD when women ask. I've talked to several women in this exact situation, it's like if you're under 30 and don't have 5 kids you must not have any idea what you want and you lose agency over your own body. One friend who wanted this had surgeons demanding a permission slip from her husband. What the fuck? Does her body belong to him? I find this situation abhorrent. Your body your choice end of story. And if you regret the consequences that's on you, not your doctor. And SHOULD NOT BE your doctor's job to dictate your life plans
As a man who's been very sure he wanted to remain childfeee since his teens: most surgeons won't sterilize men on request either. I was told several times to come back after I was married with at least three kids. Had to move to the literal opposite corner of the country to a place where Planned Parenthood isn't under constant assault to get a vasectomy after decades of chasing one.
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Anal
On my 5th birthday my parents threw a party for me with friends from kindergarten. My father had a pretty good camera for the time and loved taking photos. This was during analog times, way before digital cameras, so you wouldn't just take a bunch of photos because it got expensive. He wanted to take a group photo and I, always being a little annoyed back then with the constant photos, stuck out my tongue. He tried to make me smile but I refused. So he told me he'd take the photo of me sticking out my tongue and I'd regret it when I'm an adult that I don't have a nice photo of me on my 5th birthday. I'm 40 and I don't regret it. Love that photo.
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Not having kids, every time I have any remorse I spend some time around kids and their parents, in about 5 minutes I'm good
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Leaving proprietary software.
Yes. I keep hearing how Microsoft or Apple or Google is about to do something I shouldn't miss. And they (the unmissable things) keep being kind of big nothings.
"stop wasting time with that Linux thing. Nobody will ever hire you unless you specialize in Windows"
Linux has done far more for me professionally than being a Windows engineer ever got me, and it repeatedly keeps being proven.
Wish I could say the same, so far Linux knowledge seems to have done very little for me as far as employment goes. I have used it at work before but normally it isn't something anyone else seems to care about. At least my limited knowledge of Windows hasn't been too significant of a problem so far either.
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My mom didn't think I should buy a house. In 2009.
I would have been absolutely screwed by now if I'd listened to her advice.
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Not doing homework as a kid. Got to have a full childhood with lots of independent fucking around that has shaped my personality for the better. Tested out of school, and now me and those of my cohort who tried are all in the same boat anyway.
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Not playing football, or being interested it it at all.
Not moving out. In Germany there's still a bit of a stigma around living with your parents past your mid-20s but when I see what's currently going on with, you know, the housing market I'm glad I made that decision. I might have been a bit too lazy as well...
Plus I was able to save a bunch of money because of that, which is gonna come in handy for my move to Australia in September.
I wonder how your parents feel about that
In terms of living with my mum? She doesn't mind; I do pay her a bit every month to compensate as well.
In terms of moving? My dad doesn't care, I have a feeling that he wouldn't even come to visit me. My mum obviously both doesn't really want me to go and wants me to live my own life so she's ultimately fine with it.
Honestly, living with my mum hasn't been easy for the last year. There's just so much petty drama happening between her, my sister and anyone who they think wrongs them (I won't go into detail but it's bad); so it'll be great to get away from that.
That's far faaar from my only reason to move to Australia, mind you.
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Spending time playing video games. I enjoyed every minute and I didn't miss out on much.
Having kids. Maybe it is just communities I am in, however I fealt whole internet is against having kids.
It was the best decision I ever made!
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Becoming atheist
Cannabis.
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