[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 7 months ago

You're the reason we need this flag.

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 35 points 8 months ago

us trans people try to do that, but we're constantly being told not to

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 9 months ago

Swiss here, no it isn't. Here's a (german) overview of a few "openair hotels": https://www.stilpalast.ch/travel/specials/schlafen-unter-freiem-himmel-7144

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 year ago

Or hope that GoG finally created their Linux client, although it has only be requested by a quiet minority of literally every single suggestion on their community wishlist.

For the love of the gods CDPR, please, finally realize that Linux users are you main customer base.

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 31 points 1 year ago

I just don't care about any of that at all. I have around 100TB of seeding accumulated over the years, no VPN, zero security measures, nothing ever happened at all.

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 75 points 1 year ago

Given that it's Hetzner, there's not much you can do besides telling them "oops sorry didn't know this was illegal" and proceed using a VPN on your seedbox, go private tracker or just use a different hoster. Hetzner isn't a big fan of torrenting since they have the (german) feds in their neck.

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 year ago

"it'll probably work out"

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 23 points 1 year ago

That's poly. There's many ways on how to deal with these feelings, but acknowledging them and knowing that these aren't wrong feelings, nor signs of "wanting to cheat" is definitely the first step.

After that, it's very important to speak about this with your partner, so they too can acknowledge that this is a thing and can understand ehen you talk about such feelings (in order to make sure they don't think you're wanting to cheat). Partners sometimes have a hard time dealing with it, been there, it sucks.

Once you've built that transparency, there's many ways to go. Generally, people tend to try out more open ways of relationships, but there is no such thing as "a universal open relationship", every has to figure things out by themselves, with their partner(s).

As someone who's poly herself, I can tell you that anything related to relationships has just turned into "hardmode".

Either you suppress your polyamory and continue staying in a mono relationship. Been there, it didn't work out for me long-term.

You can try and open the mono relationship up a bit, defining key things you're (both) allowed to do. This can include flirting, kissing, non-commiting sexual acts (one night stands), non-commited relationships ("dating" but without any commitment, "I might be gone at any time depending on circumstances with my partner"), dating with commitment (having 2 partners at the same time), in which you can also seperate between having a "main partner" and a "side partner".

Throughout all of this, open, transparent and completely honest communication from everyone involved is mandatory, setting rules and boundaries and accepting them is essential, communicating clearly to new partners where you stand and how those rules are set is paramount.

Love is a strong emotion, it can make you fly over the skies, but it can also pull you into deepest, darkest depths. It's your responsibility to ensure that the latter is being limited, for you and everyone involved, basically damage control. You will fail often, but that's just how love is, in mono as well as poly relationships, although such failures hit you harder when in poly relationships.

One of the most important pieces of advice I can give you is to not be ashamed about this, about being poly, about falling in love with people randomly. It's the same as with any other thing in the LGBTQ+ space, you can't decide about it, you just are.

Oh right, and one of my biggest points of advice: never commit to more then 3 partners, ever. The time investment is too high to handle it and you will burn yourself out.

There's a lot more things I could write, but I guess this is the "poly 101". If you have any questions, feel free to reach out :)

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 1 year ago

What happened?

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 25 points 1 year ago

Most governments are greatly influenced by lobbyists, who are often tied to media companies. It gets worse since a lot of old people vote for heavy conservative parties, which in turn are even stronger leaning into lobbyism.

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 year ago

Go to "Tablet", remove "dual pane view".

I for one want the different thing, where I only have one column with small cards :(

[-] iso@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 1 year ago

I feel like what would even be better is to have something like this integrated into the app, in order to, wait for it, sync accounts with each other. It might just be a simple functionality where subs on each account are being thrown into one file that then can be applied to all the accounts.

But that's future talk I think.

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