Advice I've given my wife and my kids. Never make plans with anyone to do anything that you aren't happy to do alone.
Dinner? I'll eat alone
Movie? I'll watch it alone
Wife isn't in the mood? I'll just lay in bed and beat it next to her.
Hiking trip? Alone in nature is great.
Worst case scenario you still get to go have fun. Middle case, next time that person asks about doing something you get to remind them about all the fun you had without them.
It is MOST masculine to have hard emotionless sex with another man to avoid the estrogenisation of your penis