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[-] Kolanaki@pawb.social 61 points 4 weeks ago
  • Alarms and timers for everything.

  • Custom sounds for phone to be 10dB higher than normal, to ensure I hear them and don't just block it out as noise.

  • Putting things that need taking care of later somewhere visible, like my laundry directly in front of my bedroom door so I have to do something with it just to open the door.

  • Having autism, too, so the ADHD problems just naturally balance out.

Putting things that need taking care of later somewhere visible

That can work but also can lead to tons of clutter.

[-] goober@lemmy.world 5 points 4 weeks ago

Yup! And you can get where you'll step right over the garbage that needs taking out as you go outside and not even notice.

[-] gofsckyourself@lemmy.world 8 points 4 weeks ago

Where exactly does this 'balance out' part supposed to work? Cause that sure would be nice

[-] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 4 weeks ago

For example My autism wants me yo keep doing the same things and stick to a routine, my adhd wants me to keep trying new things. Not everyone's ND is the same ofc.

[-] doo@sh.itjust.works 8 points 4 weeks ago

I was like "somebody likes lists more than me!" and in the last point, "ah, yes, just like me :)"

[-] surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 5 points 4 weeks ago

Different alarm sounds for different activities. E.g. shower alarm sounds like a shower running.

[-] bunitor@lemmy.eco.br 4 points 4 weeks ago

not too many alarms, though, otherwise they become noise

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[-] weastie@lemmy.world 45 points 4 weeks ago

If you're trying to do thing A but your brain can't stop thinking about thing B, take out a notebook and write down all your current thoughts on thing B. Trust yourself that when you get back to it, you will be right where you left off. Then do thing A.

For example, trying to work on a paper but you can't stop thinking about the season finale of your favorite show you just watched.

Doesn't always work but helps a lot.

[-] superkret@feddit.org 13 points 4 weeks ago

Then do thing A.

Hahaha, thanks that's so easy!

[-] weastie@lemmy.world 3 points 4 weeks ago

Haha, you're right. I guess I should have written "then try to do thing A".

[-] littletoolshed@lemmy.world 8 points 4 weeks ago

Hahaha thing A who?

[-] TexasDrunk@lemmy.world 5 points 4 weeks ago

I live and die by my pocket notebook and phone calendar.

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[-] weastie@lemmy.world 31 points 4 weeks ago

If you feel like you're struggling to accomplish a task, take a moment to think about your stimulation level. Are you understimulated or overstimulated? Sometimes just acknowledging it is enough, everyone has their own techniques.

For example, if I'm trying to work and I'm understimulated, I might throw on some metal music or something like that. If I'm overstimulated, probably means I should sit in a dark room for 5 or 10 minutes until I feel better before trying to do anything.

[-] Vitaly@feddit.uk 24 points 4 weeks ago

Don't punish yourself for not succeding in something, punish yourself for not putting the effort

[-] TostiHawaii@feddit.nl 6 points 4 weeks ago

What if I'm not successful in putting in the effort?

[-] Vitaly@feddit.uk 8 points 4 weeks ago

Doesn't matter, try as hard as you can even if you are procrastinating, try to stop and do something, it's hard for normal people and even harder for us

[-] Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works 24 points 4 weeks ago

Everything goes in the calendar. Especially regular but infrequent things like birthdays. I set reminders a few days to a week before so I have time to adjust plans / buy presents or whatever.

If I'm having trouble motivating myself to do something, I commit to doing a bare minimum amount. For example going to the gym if I'm feeling unmotivated I might commit to just doing one exercise. Dishes maybe I'll just wash one plate / pan. Once I've used that to get over the initial hurdle I'll usually be able to ride the wave and complete everything.

[-] ChaosCoati@midwest.social 7 points 4 weeks ago

regular but infrequent things like birthdays

And for friends’ kids’ birthdays I put the year they were born because I definitely won’t remember how old they are

[-] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 4 weeks ago

If you really like doing something such as watching a new episode of your series on YouTube, but hate something else like exercising, combine the two. Only watch that series, while exercising. Then you'll start looking forward to the exercise because you get to watch your series.

[-] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 5 points 4 weeks ago

That's actually genius. Imma try that.

[-] higgsboson@dubvee.org 6 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

This strategy is known as "temptation bundling." It's a thing. Amusingly, I learned about this because I was doing it (mowing the lawn + my favorite podcast.)

https://characterlab.org/tips-of-the-week/temptation-bundling/

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[-] BeefPiano@lemmy.world 17 points 4 weeks ago

Being accountable to someone. Also my least favorite ADHD lifehack.

[-] madgepickles@lemmy.world 6 points 4 weeks ago

most effective answer, and therefore the one i most avoid

[-] higgsboson@dubvee.org 4 points 4 weeks ago

I feel personally attacked.

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[-] Wojwo@lemmy.ml 13 points 4 weeks ago

Myself, my wife and all 3 kids have adhd. Shared Google calendars are mandatory.

Does methylphenidate count as a life hack?

If I think of something I need, I usually just order it on Amazon prime right then, that way I don't forget latter and accidentally run out of garbage bags or something.

[-] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 16 points 4 weeks ago

Careful with that. You might get put on a list.

I remember in the 90s I had a system. You know those yellow sticky notes? Well I kept some in my bookbag for school. If I needed something, I wrote them down, and then on the weekend I'd put the sticky note on my door so I'd remember what I needed to grab from walmart.

Each of these items had COMPLETELY unrelated reasons that I was buying them. I wrote them down on unrelated days. At completely different times. With zero thought connecting them. However, I realized as I stepped in line what I had just done. I abandoned my cart entirely, and just LEFT.

I didn't go back to that walmart for 3 years.

As I stood in line, with items in my cart, I realized I was about to buy:

1 box of 36 gallon trash bags

1 pack of sharpie markers

1 pair of scissors

1 container of draino

2 gallons of bleach

1 gardening shovel (the little ones that are 6 inches and a handle)

1 coloring book aimed at preschool children

1 jar of glitter

3 bottles of elmers glue

1 jug of orange juice

36 hersheys cookies & cream candy bars

1 pack of 3 pairs of dishwashing gloves

1 box of 10 condoms

1 box of cheerios

I saw that, and thought "holy shit! This looks like I'm about to have some kind of cult ritual sex, kill them, clean up the scene, bury the body, and then have breakfast!

[-] redhorsejacket@lemmy.world 3 points 4 weeks ago

And if they're very, very lucky, you'll do it in that order.

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[-] LwL@lemmy.world 11 points 4 weeks ago

I mainly struggle with the executive dysfunction part. I found that preparing anything at all helps, even just opening the document I need to write on another screen will mean that whenever my attention next detaches from whatever else I'm doing, I will automatically latch onto what I'm supposed to do as the next thing.

This is the only way I managed to make progress on my bachelor's thesis.

[-] meco03211@lemmy.world 10 points 4 weeks ago

Noise canceling headphones and white/background noise or music. Rather than true "white noise" I prefer deeper stuff like cosmic or other low wavelength noise.

[-] MostRegularPeople@lemmy.world 4 points 4 weeks ago

I use this a lot. Usually rain spunds, but when I'm feeling spry I also like video game sound tracks and atmospheric black metal.

Where do you find "cosmic noise"?

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[-] SilentKnightOwl@slrpnk.net 3 points 4 weeks ago

For anyone who doesn't know, Mynoise has tons of free soundscapes of all kinds, they're all customizable with sliders with different sound tracks, and the different sound tracks never terminate at the same time, so there's never a jarring loop. And there's even more if you donate any amount, even just one time.

[-] tiredofsametab@fedia.io 10 points 4 weeks ago

For me, it's also putting something into my calendar (specific time) or to-do list (no specific deadline -- this is mostly for shopping and a second one for ideas). After that, if I think of something I try to do it right then if I can complete it or make measurable progress against it to avoid procrastination. Finally, physically putting things in places I can't ignore so I don't forget them (or a post-it in place, but that's more risky).

[-] ChaosCoati@midwest.social 4 points 4 weeks ago

I will set things I need to bring with me right in front of the door so I cannot leave without picking them up

[-] tiredofsametab@fedia.io 5 points 4 weeks ago

Yep. It only becomes a post-it if it's dangerous or needs to stay in the freezer until leaving or something

[-] ChaosCoati@midwest.social 5 points 4 weeks ago

So true. There’s a post-it on my car key right now because I need to remember something in the fridge when I leave for work

[-] superkret@feddit.org 10 points 4 weeks ago

I do what I call "productive procrastination".
I allow myself to procrastinate by doing something else instead that's also necessary to do.
Of course, "necessary" is a slippery term.
But what definitely doesn't fall under it is doom-scrolling, day-drinking and wikipedia rabbit holes.

This actually lets me be pretty productive throughout the day, as long as I have tasks I can push back endlessly.
Like, I haven't brought my finances and investments in proper order in over 10 years.
Which probably cost me a 5-digit amount in lost profit over that time frame.
But I'm fortunate enough to not feel it and accept things like this as my ADHD tax.
It would take a couple hours, but would involve decisions and it never becomes urgent.

[-] madgepickles@lemmy.world 3 points 4 weeks ago

yes this is the way!

[-] atrielienz@lemmy.world 9 points 4 weeks ago

Lists. My notes app puts in work. I make lists for everything. I set alarms for everything. I write things down while I'm thinking about them because I will forget. I ask for things in writing because I will misremember what was said. I have a white board stuck to my fridge so that I can write down when we're out of something or running low. Oh. And basketball nets over the hamper.

[-] Routhinator@startrek.website 7 points 4 weeks ago

Loud, energizing music will calm you by feeding a steady stream of dopamine.

Sadly this is also why I can fall asleep at a party after a coffee.

[-] WhichCrafter@mander.xyz 6 points 4 weeks ago

I have a job working with teams to improve processes. I think a lot about waste and efficiencies, what end users will actually do or adopt, making things easier / faster, etc. Now I think about these things all the time in daily life, apply them to my ADHD, and iterate endlessly:

  • If I put a thing I need to do a thing I hate behind another thing, I'm guaranteed not to dig it out. Tetris the things so the limiting thing is easy to grab. I.e., watering can, vacuum
  • If I need a thing for multiple tasks or multiple locations and keeping misplacing the thing or not wanting to go get the thing, get more things and put them in all the places. I.e., gloves, sponges, tools
  • Figure out what I need to do the thing I don't want to do as efficiently as possible. I.e., Good sponges and scrubbers for dishes, vacuum that is easier to pull out/put away

Also, radical acceptance of the things that are limiters.

  • High sensory levels and distaste for dampness- gloves for dishes, gloves for gardening, gloves for cleaning
  • Not going to put all my clothes away consistently ever, design a dresser situation that supports clothes piling without blocking access to drawers
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[-] pleasestopasking@reddthat.com 6 points 4 weeks ago

Set an alarm for an hour and a half before you wake up. Pop the Vyvanse then go back to sleep. Makes it so much easier to get out of bed once the meds start hitting.

[-] CarbonatedPastaSauce@lemmy.world 15 points 4 weeks ago

go back to sleep

I don't understand. What is this magical ability you are referencing?

[-] vonxylofon@lemmy.world 3 points 4 weeks ago

For me, it is earplugs. It's uncanny how much they help me go to sleep.

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[-] meco03211@lemmy.world 5 points 4 weeks ago

Hour for me with adderall. It's especially great if you need to wake up super early for some reason.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 5 points 4 weeks ago

My kids do "the board", write a checklist for the morning on a whiteboard.

I use the heck out of the phone calendar, and set alarms in both home system and work computer to make me stop and focus.

A "we have food for" list on the refrigerator.

To some extent, just aligning my schedule to fit my better hours, which are in the afternoon. I don't go to work so early, because I'm kind of useless before lunch anyway.

[-] Meeshall65@lemmy.world 4 points 4 weeks ago

Once i was in an executive position i hired people who are not afraid to oppose me, and who have abilities (like planning of sorts)that i lack.

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[-] rowinxavier@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago

Double speed audio.

I have real difficulty with listening to people speaking slowly. By the time they finish the sentence I have lost the start, so unless I actively hold their sentence until it is done I often lose meaning or misunderstand.

Listening at double speed allows me to keep up without losing what was said. I listen to audiobooks and podcasts while doing most chores and it has been a game changer.

[-] masto@lemmy.masto.community 3 points 3 weeks ago

The part of my brain that needs to be interested in something to do it is actually very stupid and easily tricked. Sometimes when I’m stuck all I have to do is literally pretend I find the work engaging.

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