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I have seen the quoted take unironically upvoted here on Hexbear

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[-] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 45 points 3 days ago

I live in a one room apartment with 15 other masoists (white terrorists) who get very angry at me when I try to go to the bathroom alone.

[-] NewDark@hexbear.net 21 points 3 days ago

I think this means you won communism.

[-] KnilAdlez@hexbear.net 41 points 3 days ago
[-] baaaaaaaaaaah@hexbear.net 29 points 3 days ago

I have seen the quoted take unironically upvoted here on Hexbear

I genuinely do not believe you.

[-] bunitor@lemmy.eco.br 19 points 3 days ago

i do, as i've seen so many people in progressive-leaning spaces online legit say that "if you have difficulties socializing, maybe you're just a horrible person"

[-] BeamBrain@hexbear.net 18 points 3 days ago

Yeah, and ironically it seems to be a specifically online thing. The comrades in my org know I'm autistic, know I struggle socially, and they've been wonderfully accommodating.

[-] Lussy@hexbear.net 14 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

"if you have difficulties socializing, maybe you're just a horrible person"

I’ve seen that quite a bit, especially when it comes to the realm of dating.

But enjoying solitary things is counterrevolutionairy is not something I’ve really seen on here and I think sometbing might be lost in translation. But hey, you’re probably right!

[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 14 points 3 days ago

The dating stuff genuinely upsets me. Like yea I guess I'm shit because no one loves me :/ thanks guys

[-] Blakey@hexbear.net 12 points 3 days ago

Yeah, I don't date because I struggle with horrible social anxiety and a truly brutal level of self-loathing. Trying to convince me that actually maybe everyone really does hate me and for good reason, too, isn't particularly kind OR accurate.

[-] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago

I love you comrade, you're wonderful, look after yourself for me, if you cant do it for yourself today

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[-] BeamBrain@hexbear.net 10 points 3 days ago

I think we need a term for it. Social Calvinism?

[-] BeamBrain@hexbear.net 13 points 3 days ago
[-] baaaaaaaaaaah@hexbear.net 34 points 3 days ago

That comment/thread is about porn, sex, and more generally atomisation of society. Nothing in there is implying you are counterrevolutionary for enjoying solitary activities.

[-] christian@hexbear.net 6 points 3 days ago

Also, without downvotes +17 is literally seventeen people, so extrapolating that to represent the majority of a site with 837 users logging on the past day is a bit much, especially given that upvotes from federated instances outside those 837 per day are counted as well. Not to be competitive but I've seen much stupider takes over +40.

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[-] bunitor@lemmy.eco.br 11 points 3 days ago

okay, the whole thread is cringe, but i'll have to agree with the others that you might be mischaracterizing the argument here

[-] lil_tank@hexbear.net 34 points 4 days ago

Sounds like a cold ass take to me, claiming that any kind of recreative activity is counterrevolutionary is pretty unserious in the first place and yes, forcing people to be in a group when they don't want to is ableist

[-] CliffordBigRedDog@hexbear.net 23 points 3 days ago

Alot of people here have thinly veiled contempt for whatever is deemed "loser" behaviour

[-] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 7 points 3 days ago

there definitely prevails a disdain for loners, "losers" and friendless people in culture, that a lot of (especially neurotypical) leftists have not really done the work to overcome internally.

This is true.

Enjoying ANY activities is counterrevolutionary! Solitary or social! Sorry to ruin your TREATS!

[-] TheDeed@hexbear.net 13 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Whenever I try to do a little bit of solitary reading one of my comrades snatches the book out of my hand and calls a house story hour & read aloud sesh (AFTER the struggle sesh chastising me for reading alone)

[-] SocialistDad@hexbear.net 5 points 3 days ago

I do self-criticism constantly because I’m trapped in a Maoist cult where comrades (white terrorists) criticize me mercilessly for having a fascist credit card (VISA Silver Signature Rewards)

They won’t let me order vegan pizza anymore because the phone is fascist and “summoning my pizza slaves with a bourgeois app” is “bad vibes”

[-] cosecantphi@hexbear.net 16 points 3 days ago

The "go outside and touch grass with friends and family on new years instead of being on hexbear" struggle session we had a few years ago really sucked

[-] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 5 points 3 days ago

I've always understood the grass to be allegorical, but i'm not a hexbear literalist, i do have a lot of photos of myself touching grass ironically tho

[-] Angel@hexbear.net 18 points 3 days ago

It really seems like so many leftists, even on Hexbear, will give a take that is inadvertently reactionary because questioning if the logic of these takes can negatively impact marginalized people is often an afterthought.

[-] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 6 points 3 days ago

I spent 4 hours silently mending a pair of pants last night, gulag me

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[-] bunitor@lemmy.eco.br 15 points 3 days ago

what a fuckass take (not yours, obviously)

i swear to god, i feel like this is a massive problem in leftist spaces in general. they seem to be mostly populated by sociable extroverts who operate on the subconscious belief that introverts or people who are not particularly socila (not just neurodivergent people) are wrong somehow, and so these spaces feel pretty hostile. i hope i'm wrong, but time and time again i keep seeing evidence of that

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[-] Infamousblt@hexbear.net 17 points 3 days ago

This is nuclear like a microwave who thinks this. Community is important but community means a lot of different things to a lot of different people

[-] TheSpectreOfGay@hexbear.net 17 points 4 days ago

if this is a nuclear take that is very concerning tbh

[-] BeamBrain@hexbear.net 14 points 3 days ago

I may have exaggerated a bit, but I've seen the sentiment upvoted on this site more than once.

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[-] durruticore@hexbear.net 8 points 3 days ago
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[-] SpiderFarmer@hexbear.net 14 points 3 days ago

That or even just people with shitty schedules.

[-] Aceivan@hexbear.net 9 points 3 days ago

I haven't seen it actually upvoted in a long time but sometimes theres an undertone.

OTOH I feel this way IRL and it never seems to actually be how people feel about me so I try to assume similar is true of hexbear comrades

[-] infuziSporg@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago

Show me one instance of someone who posted that as anything other than a solitary effort. I'll wait.

Solo posting smh

[-] Dessa@hexbear.net 6 points 3 days ago

Comrades poop together

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