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It's not a choice (piefed.cdn.blahaj.zone)

submitted 9 hours ago by LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone to c/adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com

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[-] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 11 points 3 hours ago

My brain is like a jujitsu master at avoiding work. I'll be like OK we've got our green tea, no distractions, pomodoro is set, tasks clearly defined and workspace prepped for focus I am figuratively taking a running charge at my work annnnnd……wait why am I looking up how PS/2 ports work? Why are there 22 tabs on this open???

It's like my brain takes all my productive energy and redirects it to fun trivia or solving the wrong problems.

[-] Ioughttamow@fedia.io 2 points 2 hours ago

I get really really productive, at everything else. So like I’m freaking out about work but at least my house is clean!

[-] Bo7a@lemmy.ca 1 points 3 hours ago

s/emotional/irrationally angry

[-] MelodiousFunk@slrpnk.net 80 points 9 hours ago

[-] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 15 minutes ago

I might actually do that.

[-] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 6 points 3 hours ago

I don’t say that, especially not in response to someone sharing something that’s upsetting them, but it feels like there’s a connection for me at least. I’m an American immigrant in Germany and there’s a huge cultural difference in both mood (unrelated to things like depression or anxiety) and optimism between the two countries. I tried to adjust how I talk about my expectations to better fit in for a while, but it was stressing me the fuck out. When I stopped verbalizing negative expectations as much (I still do express pessimism, but only about things that I’m actually pessimistic about), I experienced fewer of them. I can’t speak for anyone else, but for me, choosing to express happiness created more happiness and choosing to express doubt created more doubt.

[-] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 3 hours ago

Friend, this is an ADHD community. Not a, "have you tried changing your outlook" community.

[-] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 4 points 2 hours ago

Which is why I’m sharing a coping skill that works for me.

[-] Star@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 8 hours ago

Anyone have advice for how to manage this? Or at least the depression it brings when everything feels like too mich work?

[-] ashaman2007@lemm.ee 11 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

Therapy (both individual and group talk therapy) helps with the emotional regulation and any childhood trauma and bad coping mechanisms you acquired by being a kid with ADD/ADHD. Medication helps with the focusing of course, both allowing you to focus for longer and sometimes (in the case of XR meds) softening the "crash" so you can have the mindfulness and focus to bring your emotional regulation tools into play and start to self regulate. I firmly believe both are necessary for some (if not most) people to be truly successful living with ADD/ADHD.

[-] Atherel@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 4 hours ago

All of this plus meditation, yoga or sports like running can help too. Try it but don't force yourself if you're not into it.

[-] gressen@lemmy.zip 30 points 8 hours ago

Medication

[-] stevedice@sh.itjust.works 20 points 7 hours ago

This. You need to accept it's a disease. You wouldn't tell someone with a broken leg to walk it off.

[-] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 7 minutes ago

I have almost literally been told this by a doctor in a hospital.

[-] Signtist@bookwormstory.social 14 points 4 hours ago

I find it easier to think of it like bad eyesight, rather than a disease. We usually think of diseases as things that eventually go away, especially when there are medications for them, and that doesn't happen here.

Some people are born with good eyesight, and they can see everything clearly right from the get-go. Some people can't, and they need the external modifier of corrective lenses or, no matter how hard they try, the world will be blurry. So, they wear those corrective lenses every day just to function in the world.

Taking meds for ADHD is more like that.