I didn't use reddit much outside of a few niche communities, it had a repetitive brand of humor and weird dogpiling I didn't jive with. Here, I find people genuinely want to engage, with moderation suited to a more mature crowd, at least in the communities I hang around.

There are culture shifts between instances and communities, so I try to have a look around before I speak up. Some places you gotta lurk to get a feel, others are a free for all. I stepped on a few toes while I got my footing — just read the sidebars if you want to avoid that.

Browsing by subscribed is the best experience, in my opinion. I see every instance so ALL is a cacophony of back alley circus heretics if I don't tailor my feed.

Here are some useful tools I picked up in my time here:

Check defederated instances: https://federation-checker.vercel.app/

Fediverse Observer: https://lemmy.fediverse.observer/list

Comparison of Lemmy instances: https://github.com/maltfield/awesome-lemmy-instances

Lemmy apps and discussion (2 years old): https://lemmy.world/post/465785

The Lemmy Rat: https://lemvotes.org/

there isn't any lemmy equitte

there is equitte for each instance. that's up to the people who admin the instance and usually boils down to political beliefs.

The lemmy instance you choose (for example, you chose .ml) to join will have its own tone, flavor, rules, politics. You will find instances that are left, right, and center. Additionally you will find some that are VERY far-left or VERY far-right. If you are finding the tone for the lemmy community (equivalent of reddit subreddit) different that your position, it may be because its hosted and moderated on an instance with that particular bend.

You may also experience some judgment from others because of the instance you are coming from as it can communicate some of your positional bias. Some users have chosen to relocate to other lemmy instances once they get an understanding of what ideas live where.

All of that said, while lemmy and the fediverse has a much smaller userbase than Reddit, it is so much nicer here. My last post to reddit was over 2 years ago, and every post I hear about how bad it is getting over there confirms this is the better place here.

Have a backup instance in mind, if the culture of your current one doesn't work out. Especially yours. People are not at liberty to express what's what with this instance on this instance.

Do not be afraid to block people, because they will keep showing up, and some of them are psychic vampires whom their instances will never punish. Universal Monk has a sockpuppet on every instance and will probably respond rudely to slash angrily report this comment for pointing out they're a block-evading 'hmm curious' spambot.

As on reddit, beware the cult of civility. Some communities (subs) will viciously punish 'fuck off' but not any behavior that frankly deserves a vulgar dismissal. Read the sidebar. Don't be afraid to search for alternative communities if the sole moderator is intolerable. See also the Ye Power Trippin Bastards community on dbzer0.

Similar to Reddit. Everything here seems to be more tech oriented and most communities are much quieter than reddit.

Also be prepared to follow the same topic/community across multiple servers. Reddit is older so the default community for a given topic had been established. Not so much here

Maybe the largest difference for me is how the federated nature changes the social dynamics. For instance, people from Instance X don’t like those from Instance Y, or may even ban them.

This was prevalent on Reddit, buuuut banning can be instance or node based compared to subreddit.

I likely have some opinions or takes I wouldn’t post on lemmy.ml because lemmy.ml has a particular bent. I agree with a lot of it, but I wouldn’t want to offend with what doesn’t align or would get me banned. The ban cascades further out, and how servers interact as wholes with one another in terms of federation is similar.

The social platform mechanics are also different. Upvote has a different impact compared to Reddit (I don’t fully remember the specifics). I think saving has its own relevancy or something?

It’s mostly the same though.

im not even sure what reddiqutte was.

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Welcome!/I'd say look for communities that fit your interest, read the rules and get involved. We are not that many people here so I encourage you to post content, comment, etc.

Also use the block function and curate your fediverse experience :)

Hope you like it here.

Sometimes I'll call you a dumbass, but if I do, you were probably being a dumbass.

corporate koolaid frequently masquerades as 'knowledge', and is parroted rather than built up from first principles.

compared to reddit, an average lemmy user would tend more towards the latter than the former.

be on the lookout for the cognitive dissonance which can precede the realisation you've been parroting corporate propaganda. it's ok, it happens to all of us, but the sooner we realise the better for everyone.

i would just point out that lemmy is merely a single platform swimming in the fediverse content waters.. there are other options that provide differing features while interacting with the same or more content. see https://fedidb.com/

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