Nothing, absolutely never going to happen. It has been many, many years and they moved on more easily than me…almost like my going NC did them a favor. My dad passed before Covid, and he was the only one I had a relationship with in adulthood, and I miss him. I have no idea what has become of the rest of my family over the years. I am mostly fine. There’s no use mourning awful people for decades. I do it once or twice a year and that’s more of the mourning an idea of what having a family would be.

Admittion of wrong-doing and change of behaviour.

It's alot more complicated than that but that's pretty high level view.

nothing. my father is a fascist and refuses to acknowledge how homophobic and violent about it he was towards me as a teenager. he can apologize for the way he treated me but supporting Trump twice is unforgivable.

An apology, acknowledgement of wrongdoings and the $400k dad cost me by ignoring my grandfathers wishes for the inheritance. Writing that out, I'll likely never talk to him again.

For both: a genuine, non-narcissist’s apology. The kind my stepson knew how to do when he was 11.

So basically, nothing realistic.

For them to apologize and to treat me like an adult.

Nothing. They had years to start listening. Now it's too late.

My father would have to admit he didn't really care and make up for all the bs that happened because of it.

My mother can rot in hell.

Nothing. My parents went through a nasty divorce that I was dragged through the middle of. During that ordeal, my mom made it abundantly clear how she felt about me. I now maintain a strict no-contact policy regarding her, for both my sanity and safety.

Mother: Can prove that they are in recovery from drugs, apologize for selling/trafficking me for drugs, and almost murdering me.

Father: Apologize for abandoning me, and take an active interest in my life.

My brother's a textbook malignant narcissist who will literally lecture everyone around him about how wonderful he is. He pulls shitty, manipulative BS, lies about his innocence with a straight face and then does it again the next day.

My brother is who he is and there's nothing he could ever say or do that would convince me otherwise.

I think mine is mentally unwell. If she wasn't, we might be able to build a positive relationship eventually, but I don't think that's possible for her.

For me, it would be for her to actually respect my boundaries, and to show an active interest in who I actually am instead of what role I can fulfill for her.

I am low contact, but she is way too mentally ill to have positive relationships with people. I sympathize that she can't control it, but it's kind of like asking me to put my hand on a stove to please someone else. I truly gain nothing but unpleasant feelings from being around her. I feel nothing but aversion to the thought of being around her. Even as a child I avoided her.

I cut off my father after him defending the murder of George Floyd by reciting TimPool/Peterson talking points. And then he died last year. So, I guess he'd have to fix that first.

On the flip side, I have cut all contact with the youngest of my four children (he is turning 24 in a month) due to bigotry, fascistic tendencies, rampant narcissism and believing in and supporting things that make me absolutely nauseous. My other three kids don't talk to him either. We all call him the white sheep in a black sheep family, as he's very normative, straight white supremacist, etc. I'm rather surprised he doesn't go to church despite being atheist his whole life.

Haven't had contact with my dad for at least 12 years. No reason really we're just both the kind of person to not call, so there isn't anything to mend. I assume the next time I'll be seeing him is at his mum's funeral.

Nothing. I simply don't want anything to do with the concept of biological family; makes absolutely no sense to me.

Nothing. She is utterly unrepentant and claims no idea what she did. One sibling is also no contact. The other is involved, therefore I decline to communicate because they cannot be trusted to not pass on information.