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[-] Sunshine@lemmy.ca 106 points 2 months ago

You missed one: don't use ai to generate images.

[-] wildncrazyguy138@fedia.io 12 points 2 months ago

He missed a few more as well.

  • don’t command people what to do, instead ask them politely
  • don’t yuck other people’s yum
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[-] xxce2AAb@feddit.dk 57 points 2 months ago

Hold the door if someone is right behind you.

Unless you're entering a secure location, in which case don't.

[-] howrar@lemmy.ca 13 points 2 months ago

My work place has to keep sending out emails to remind everyone to not hold the door open for people tailing them.

[-] xxce2AAb@feddit.dk 6 points 2 months ago

That's... most unfortunate. I've yet to work in any place where that wouldn't have been grounds for immediate dismissal.

[-] Rusty@lemmy.ca 50 points 2 months ago
[-] TehBamski@lemmy.world 11 points 2 months ago

Are you claiming this posted content to be AI generated or that we should 'Fuck AI slop' as a etiquette?

[-] Rusty@lemmy.ca 18 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Both, I guess.I can see the yellow background and thick black lines, which are usually the signs of a generated image. Edit: Also the money in the tip jar looks like some unholy amalgamation of coins and bills.

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[-] skeezix@lemmy.world 39 points 2 months ago

I live in a country where tipping isn’t a thing, and nobody here wants it to be a thing. And American tourists come over and can’t comprehend not tipping so they tip anyway because they think we’re just being mean to each other and that we all want tipping to be a thing.

[-] FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website 34 points 2 months ago

No one taught you this? Even if nobody sits you down for a lesson, you are taught by example by the people around you when you grow up.

Also, the tipping and keeping doors open for people behind you are not universally applicable. In large swaths of Asia you'll be met by ire or confusion respectively. So maybe this is missing a generated image for being culturally sensitive.

[-] apotheotic@beehaw.org 9 points 2 months ago
[-] jdr@lemmy.ml 6 points 2 months ago

I wish people would stop reminding me of my existence

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[-] biggerbogboy@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 months ago

Not disagreeing with what you’re saying here but it seems to assume that everyone is able to understand unspoken etiquette, which unfortunately isn’t the case.

For example, for myself, I hadn’t ever learned about a bunch of these (such as the waiting for other people to exit the elevator/doorway before entering, as well as the acknowledging staff one,) since I barely see them in action nor really concentrate deliberately on them, and it doesn’t help the fact I’m quite likely autistic.

Frankly, it’d be great if I was sat down and told about each of these things early on, it would’ve saved me from many years of confusion, conflict and anxiety, and it would’ve prevented me from thinking the reason I don’t fit in is exclusively my fault and I should pay for it.

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[-] firkin_slang_whanger@lemmy.world 34 points 2 months ago

Please don't cover your mouth when you cough with your hands. Please don't.

[-] wabasso@lemmy.ca 17 points 2 months ago

Just to clarify, the suggestion here is to use the crook of your elbow.

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[-] k0e3@lemmy.ca 25 points 2 months ago

Your parents failed you if they didn't teach at least half of these, Christ.

[-] pulsewidth@lemmy.world 20 points 2 months ago

Entire poster could be summarised as: treat other people with respect and empathy.

[-] Havatra@lemmy.zip 15 points 2 months ago

That's a bit of the problem these days though; younger generations are not taught what concrete actions are deemed respectful. Furthermore it's viewed as a personal inconvenience for the sake of strangers.

"Common sense is not that common."

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[-] axx@slrpnk.net 20 points 2 months ago

Your parents. Your parents are expected to teach you these.

[-] bookmeat@lemmynsfw.com 18 points 2 months ago
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[-] Kolanaki@pawb.social 18 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

If no one taught you a good majority of these: What the hell did your parents teach you?

[-] urandom@lemmy.world 18 points 2 months ago

To hell with your tipping culture

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[-] Cassa@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 2 months ago

Would change the "cover your mouth" the presumedly ai generated image shows someone using their hand - which is not cool.

cough into your elbow so you don't spread germs.

[-] Sergio@piefed.social 7 points 2 months ago

Well, it's AI, so they're probably using someone else's hand.

[-] rekabis@lemmy.ca 14 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)
  1. How is this a guide for adults?? I knew most of these before I became an adult.
  2. These ought to be taught by parents and other adults which are important in the child’s life, and backed up by demonstrations by example. Parents have a duty to demonstrate correct behaviours themselves, and reinforce those behaviours in their children.
  3. The shopping cart one ought to be extended to “if you pick something up in the store and don’t want it, put it back where you got it from”. I see far too much perishable frozen/refrigerated goods stuffed elsewhere on a shelf and dethawing to unsaleability because people changed their minds and couldn’t be arsed to put it back where it came from.
  4. For the “cover your mouth” one - please, for the love of Pete, learn the difference between a cough and a clearing of the throat. They are not the same damn thing.
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[-] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 12 points 2 months ago

I blows my mind how many adults don't know this. The way I was raised, I'd be embarrassed to get in someone's way as they tried to exit an elevator. But I was also taught that common decency is a good thing and we've clearly given up on that.

[-] sawdustprophet@midwest.social 6 points 2 months ago

But I was also taught that common decency is a good thing

Funny, I never saw it as a decency thing, more utilitarian. It's a waste of effort to try to cram myself into an already occupied box (unless there are occupants staying in the box, of course).

[-] Agent641@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago

Same with trains. Nobody in my city seems to get that. I just barge my way through them crowded at the entrance if I'm getting out

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[-] Diddlydee@feddit.uk 12 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Why is there a separate one for exiting an elevator when there's one for exiting rooms below? Same principle

[-] CodingCarpenter@lemmy.ml 11 points 2 months ago

Don't look in my eyes. Fuck that don't even look at me if you can help it and I'll return the favor

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[-] Agent641@lemmy.world 11 points 2 months ago

You cover your mouth with your hand when you cough, but you don't cover your ass when you fart. Curious.

[-] Darkassassin07@lemmy.ca 7 points 2 months ago

Unless you're naked; your ass is already covered.

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[-] KeenFlame@feddit.nu 11 points 2 months ago

"no one" teaches you to sneeze in the elbow?? What do you teach kids at all then?

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[-] socsa@piefed.social 10 points 2 months ago

eye contact

No thank you

[-] Havatra@lemmy.zip 10 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Nice post! I don't know how many are or aren't taught these things, as I feel like I was taught most of these myself. I do have some opinions though:

  • Tipping I feel like is a thing very pertained to the US, and shouldn't be considered "good etiquette", but rather altruistic. I.e. no pressure to give tips. Same with the car, but it should still be returned "in an equal or better condition" if possible.
    Etiquette is not dependent on economic power.
  • Being loud in general is bad etiquette/uncivilized, so the three about loud music, speakerphone, and loudness in quiet public places could be a single entry.
  • Other duplicates: "let others exit first" and "clean up".
  • The coughing shows a graphic of holding the hand in front of the mouth, which should instead be the elbow because of simple hygiene.
  • The part about commenting on someone's food is a bit weird, as it could be extended to "don't share your opinion about my choices unless I ask". Thoughts?
  • I really like the modern inclusion of putting away your phone during conversations!
  • Things that could be added:
    • Value others' time; be on time, and don't be in the way of those with little time.
    • Do the small things yourself, regardless of whose responsibility it is (like pick up something from the floor).
    • Give space when there is space. E.g. walking on the sidewalk, shopping cart in aisle, personal space in the queue, etc.
[-] howrar@lemmy.ca 6 points 2 months ago

Commenting on other people's food is very common around here. Maybe it's more appropriate to say "don't content negatively on other people's food"? Or better yet, "don't comment negatively on anything unprompted".

[-] calliope@retrolemmy.com 4 points 2 months ago

It is so general on that one!

“Hey that food looks good”
“Don’t tell me how my food looks!”

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[-] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 8 points 2 months ago

Big fat no on the tipping. Tipping should be outlawed altogether, start paying your employees a decent wage instead!

Also do comment on people's food choices as long as it is positive. "That looks awesome, I would LOVE some >insert nice food here< for myself next time!" I would maybe change that one to just "Don't criticize people for their decisions that do not affect you" or something like that

No virtue signalling intended but I'm happy to say that I do all the rest of these things, are those things not normal to do anyway?

[-] Defectus@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago

When a lot of today's parents fail to teach their kids all these things... But to. Hell with the tipping

[-] Droechai@piefed.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Im pretty sure a lot of these are taught by parents and cultural osmosis, at least where I live.

Edit: The pandemic definately tried to teach people to cover their face holes while sneezing or coughing

[-] LyingCake@feddit.org 5 points 2 months ago

Hey ooli, I did not like your post. What was your reasoning when you decided to make it?

I'd be sincerely interested in the (thought) process.

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