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Cute!
I had to read the first part of the post multiple times, because that's how I read it at first
My lovely wife and I have been together for decades. No Valentine's day gifts. No surprise Christmas gifts.
Valentine's day morning, she wakes up and it was tense.
I jokingly said I was making her Valentine's day breakfast, which is just regular breakfast but the toast was a heart shape. She seemed pretty satisfied.
Then I suggested we go to the supermarket. She picked out flowers and we bought us candy.
Im 90% confident she was just playing a prank. But I'm worried I started a real Valentine's day routine. 😭
That's hilarious. Sorry?
The first time my wife and I celebrated valentines was 2015. We had been married 14 years, and only celebrated it at my mother's urging.
We decided to drive to a semi resort town for different restaurant options. Everything was horrible, the food, the service, even trying to pay the bill. Over the next 10 years we did at least a little something for the day. This year she asked if we were doing anything and I said, "please, no." She laughed and said she was relieved. Yesterday I did go to the grocery store in town to get cheap markdown candy for her, but the only thing they had were those pepto dismal hearts.
Honestly going out on VD is the worst. It’s busy af everywhere, staff are exhausted dealing with the surge, everyone working wants you to spend a lot more than you do, everyone is either on edge or sad, you’ll probably be disturbed by some grand sweeping gesture..
Ick. The weekend before or after are much better. Or literally any other time. Go for romantic dates on other holidays when everyone else tends to be out of town, not the day when everyone else is trying to do the same thing.
I quit my job 2 weeks before Valentine's day and I heard it went horrible (most expensive fine dining in the city). Only prep cooked quit on the spot after my last day so no experienced prep cooks, no experienced line cook except the two chefs. Everything got 86'd and one of the servers said she got stiffed on tips 3 times in a row for $200+ tickets. Some restaurants don't plan well for Valentine's day and make the most while cheating out all their workers.
We went to three different restaurants, none of them were busy. In fact the second, there was more staff than customers the entire time we were there.
We went to the second place because the first place ditched their normal menu for a special valentine menu. Nothing was vegetarian and there were no substitutions.
Yeah my wife has done the whole valentine's rigamarole with exes, and I haven't. She hates it, and it's thoroughly unappealing to me. We wound up watching TV together after I made us a big casserole
Me giving my wife flowers (as a joke), and then making her breakfast (as a joke). Lululullulu gotem
This year I decided to throw a party on Vday, since going out that day with my partner always ends up being an expensive letdown. I thought most of my friends wouldnt show up figuring they would want to do something romantic with their SOs... I was wrong. Everyone agreed traditional Vday plans suck, so all of the couples I invited showed up and we had a full house. We had fun snacks that people baked, we played some fun games, and mostly we just had a good time. I might turn it into an annual tradition!
Would've been a much better story if the dad replied only with "your mom"
I got a Valentines gift for my wife, she hadn't gotten me one and felt bad.
We were going to get a meal from a steakhouse but instead I went shopping, got a steak, salad, and rolls. Made dinner myself for about 20% of the cost but no leftovers.
All in all it was a good day. Dessert was apple cider with some apple pie moonshine in it.
My wife's guilt present is on its way too, hehe.
Been together 15 years, married almost 12, and in our 50s.
I teared up a little, for real. Sound so wholesome. A meal made with love, meant to be shared with your better half. So adorbs. You are both so lucky to have each other.
Thank you for that! We are pretty happy together, and have a house filled with animals.
We smashed a shitload of render off the garage, then fell asleep eating souvlaki and watching muppets. (20/15/40's)
This went in a different direction than I was anticipating after reading the first two lines.
My husband bought me chocolate this month (as he does every month with the groceries) but this month rationed it into little valentine bags.
I wrote out 102 reasons I love him on colorful scraps of paper and rolled them up into jars.
I think it's so narrow minded to say you don't celebrate valentines because it's too capitalistic. Aren't you looking for any excuse to shower your partner with love? Plus valentines can be so grade school and still so sweet! It's an excuse to let out your inner child and make a craft or hand drawn card/ love letter. I baked heart shaped cookies and dyed some frosting pink!
Neither of us shelled out big money, but you can bet I wore pink and red a couple times this week. It's fun to like stuff! It's the best part of being human!
Nice
I had to work Valentine's morning, figured I'd pick up flowers on the way home. Candy for me was on the kitchen table when I woke up and the wife was crying because I "forgot" Valentine's Day again...
How to avoid this:
Communicate at all with your wife. Explain, before the day, that you will have to work in the morning. Ask if she'd like to wake up super early with you or if it would be preferable to celebrate with eachother once you get home from work.
Oh, thanks, I didn't try any of this, and we never communicate at all! Thanks for the fucking insight.
How in fucks name would your wife think you forgot valentines day if you communicated about the exact circumstances that would happen? You're welcome for the insight, stranger!
Because she enjoys being upset
Nobody enjoys being upset, you just hate your wife.
Frankly it sounds like both of them need therapy but its pretty telling how you just assume he's the problem as if she's perfectly normal
I have no firsthand information about her so I cannot make a judgment on her. I have firsthand information about this guy, and so I can judge him on that. But sure, "pretty telling".
Yep, you got me dead to rights, completely understood my 12 year relationship over the course of a few comments on the Internet.
You're the one sharing your intimacy without anyone asking on a public space. Take the unrequired advice from the public.
IE: Clearly no one else is planning anything for him.
So why not assume reciprocity? Seems like that’s the shared norm? Meanwhile the partner offers nothing and assumes someone else has it handled for them.
Classic one-way valentines stuff.
I've yet to get anything from women I date for any holiday or my birthday.
I've always felt like it's expected for men to shower women with gifts.
I didn't plan, I didn't ask, but I hope something will happened or I'll be disappointed...
this post was submitted on 16 Feb 2026
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