My wife hates giving blowjobs, to the point where she doesn't even want me to go down on her since she feels bad for not wanting to reciprocate. It's like, I don't do it because I want to get something in return, I just want to make you feel good, haha!
it sounds like she wants to reciprocate giving pleasure in some way, just not that one. give her an idea.
the sexiest organ you can use during sex is your brain, then your voice. communication goes a long, long way.
I feel ya. Got a similar situation. She often does not want me to go down on her or similar bevause she does not have the energy to reciprocate. But she still says she wants it. The she keeps saying 'oh you don't have to do all this'.
It's odd but sometimes we do stuff because it feels good to make our loved ones feel good.
Ma'am, I'm trying to pleasure a Lady down here, that's hard work. Please stop worrying and enjoy the trip.
Besides that, I found blowjobs to be boring every time. It just doesn't do that much for me.
I genuinely wonder what that's about. Why is it so much of a sacrifice, why is it any different from giving a back rub (assuming you have good hygiene). I certainly am not bothered by going down on her - on the contrary.
From what I understand, her previous relationships had all been transactional, where the guy made her feel like she owed him for every nice thing he did. She's still working on allowing herself to receive without feeling a sense of debt.
I've dated quite a few women and had a couple of long-term relationships. They all seem reluctant to give a blowjob - it happens but rarely. I've never pushed it, only shown in every way I can how much I enjoy it when it does happen. My current domestic partner does it, but I probably go down on her 10-20x more often than she does me.
But it's also kind of a general pattern that they expect me to take the initiative in sex, and they are relatively passive. One hypothesis I have is that taking too much initiative makes them feel "slutty" or that their own desirability is not confirmed enough. Maybe this is just a part of that general pattern. But what do I know.
You are reading into it too much, you just have big dick problems.
Bro, talk to her about getting a Fleshlight. That way you both win. She won't feel guilty and both of you pleasure each other.
If it even touches the bed, I'll burn it with fire!
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I'm very fortunate that my partner loved giving blow jobs, she'll even just randomly start sucking my dick unprompted because she's filthy and enjoys it so much.
That said when I met her, she wasn't as keen on receiving but luckily enough I have been able to warm her up to it more, because I love eating her delicious cunt.
Romance isn't dead
Can you ask her to write a tutorial on how to enjoy getting ate out pls, cuz I can suck dick all day long, but the second there's a face anywhere near my twat, I'm instantly closed for business. And I know my husband wants to too, I just... ¯_(ツ)_/¯
I see you are a recent refugee of lemmynsfw
No, just filthy.
Okay but like I like blowjobs and it makes me not want to go down on a girl if she won't reciprocate. I deal with it because I like eating pussy but it's definitely on my mind when it's my turn and she doesn't want to reciprocate.
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Ah.
I think if you find someone like that you'd literally have no time to leave the house.
why leave the house?
Because variety is the spice of life, and I really want to say I've 69ed on that new interstate 69 they're building over there in texas.
they built a what now
There was an old highway that they're converting to an interstate, and because they have some weird naming convention it's going to be Interstate Highway 69. I straight up offered to the friend that told me about it that I would fly in and 69 him, but it was a no go.
You're a good friend.
I'm just a horny loser :'(
okay so the red line is 67, i drew the blue line where i'm guessing 69 is going. how close did i get?
note: this is more fun than looking it up
Pretty close! I know it runs through houston and up to the northeast, maybe passing through shreveport or texarkana as the next major city. Off the top of my head, I know it's going to hit the texas cities of livingston and lufkin, because I remember blasting around those when I drove to a friend's party.
I love giving but my gf hates receiving. How I wish it wasn't so
I get major Tumblr girl vibes from OP
Love it when they eat you out and are immediately ready to stick it inside
Is this the first meeting of Muff Divers Anonymous on the fediverse?
Well, with the loss of lemmynsfw, it could be you as the founding member!
“I’m not just the president but also a member.”
I'm sorry, It turns out I'm not a man u.u
But that does explain why I was so turned off at the prospect of getting sucked (yuck) Because this junk on me is the wrong parts!
The most fun relationships I've had, my own body was hardly even acknowledged and I made it all about what I can do for my partner ^^
Besides, receiving sexual gratification of any kind is aggressively mid to me anyway, because I'm pretty sure I'm on the asexual spectrum.
I want to please my partners solely because I'm panromantic and when anyone i love has a good time i get the warm fuzzy giddy mushy sappy tingles~ :3
I don't really like blowjobs, my wife loves giving them. I love going down though, so I just let her enjoy before it's my turn.
This is me, I’ve got a severe oral fixation and eating pussy and ass are among my favorite things in life but it’s not easy for me to enjoy it myself. Although I will concede to enjoying pretty much anything oral as long as the other party LOVES doing it. I’d rather just have sex than get a half assed blowjob but if someone loves having a dick in their mouth it makes a huge difference
but if someone loves having a dick in their mouth it makes a huge difference
Um, hi! I'm here, and I'm looking to be swallowing someone's big 'ole horse dong!
Holler if you ever in the PNW lol
Oh, I haven't been up there in years. My idiot sister made the brilliant decision to move from those beautiful lands down to a desert, and I haven't had a reason to go back yet. I loved the view from the puget sound, and seeing mountains in every direction if you can get a little elevation is just amazing.
Funny that international women's day is only 23 hours long this year
sorry, most importantly committed, also enby. but i think what you're looking for is silty loam, not a man.
Givers unite.
69 - the most equal position.
If you fit. My gf is so much smaller than me (more accurately I am much taller/bigger, she is about average size) that it quite literally dors not work. I can barely kiss her normaly without breaking both our necks during sex.
I'm over a foot taller than my wife and we don't have any issues.
aaand we’re talking about men
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