It's emotional manipulation designed to make you feel worthless and unlovable to others and yourself, whilst also making you feel like the only person that actually wants you is him. The ultimate goal is to keep you with him, no matter what he does by making you believe that only he will put up with you.
On top of that, I would guess he's an idiot.
This right here.
100% agree
Congrats, you spotted a flag! You seem a bit confused about the color. It's red, very very red! Here is why:
He's angry at you. Why? Because you don't do as he says or wants.
He then trash talks about you. Why? Because he is angry, and wants to hurt you, but not openly on your face no no. Because if he did hurt you openly, he knows you are smart enough to never again do what he wants and as he says.
Did you get that right? I said, He wants to hurt you
Finally, he asks you to go be with him. Why? Well he wants you for something. But if it were to give you love and affection, he wouldn't be trash talking about you in the first place. He just wants someone to validate him, someone he can control. Obviously. Nobody in their right mind wants someone who they say is a slut and they are angry at. Unless, of course, you can still fulfill his need for validation and control.
Run away Don't give this person the time of the day
You know the fediverse is doing great when even cryptozoology specimens are on here giving good life advice
He's having his (hate) cake and eating it too.
His true colours were yet to reveal themselves. Now you can see the size of the bullet you just missed.
OP it is pretty obvious.
Your ex is a total piece of shit.
I think more than anything else, hurt people hurt people.
You guys broke up, he's immature, doesn't know how to deal with his emotions and takes it out on mocking you.
Just ignore/block him.
Maybe he has low self-esteem and believes that you're only going to be with him if he makes you feel bad (i.e get you down on his level).
Needless to say, it's a very harmful behavior to him and specially to you.
100% toxic destructive behavior. It is a very well researched and doculented pattern. Next steps: guilt triggering, indirect threat, verbal abuse, direct threat (including against self), physical abuse. Sometimes it ends with an attempted homicide or outright murder.
You can't draw that conclusion from the available information.
Bro was just dumped, so he very well could just be venting his emotions to the wrong people.
It doesn't justify his behavior, but his behavior doesn't automatically mean he's an abusive person.
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