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[-] Gork@lemm.ee 41 points 7 months ago

Measuring cup is still a cup 💁‍♂️🥤

[-] Fuck_u_spez_@sh.itjust.works 33 points 7 months ago

Two, in fact!

[-] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 28 points 7 months ago

My strategy (especially since I got married) is to just have a single plate and a single bowl. These get washed/rinsed whenever I want to put food in them (I do discard visible waste after a meal). It's helped me both in terms of not having a pile of dishes that scares me and in terms of not getting stuck in analysis paralysis if all the dishes are dirty and I'm hungry. I actually have a visually distinct plate I use and try my best to never use a different plate to eat. I'd recommend giving it a try.

[-] Twitches@lemm.ee 6 points 7 months ago

I've been trying to get my SO to agree to getting rid of all the plates and cups except for what we use hasn't worked yet I should just go solo and take your recommendation it's a good recommendation

[-] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 6 points 7 months ago

I'm in the same situation - we have a lot of dishes in our house and my partner can manage with multiple dishes... so I have my chosen dishes and then we have a pool of dishes for them to use - they've actually struggled with this same issue (they're not diagnosed but might be ADHD) so while they use a rotation of plates and bowls they have adopted "the chosen coffee mug" to keep from getting overwhelmed by piles of mugs on random surfaces in their office.

[-] MrQuallzin@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago

My wife and I moved recently. We don't have a dishwasher at the moment so we chose to have 4 sets of dishes unpacked total so we can make sure to keep up on dishes. 2 meals each uses all the dishes, so we're forced to clean them daily.

[-] rottingleaf@lemmy.zip 1 points 7 months ago

This works, but due to ADHD at some point I forget that that bowl is, say, on top of a wardrobe near the place where I sit with a laptop, and instead of remembering where it is take another one. And so on.

[-] Worx@lemmynsfw.com 15 points 7 months ago

What do you mean? It looks pretty great having a bowl with a handle. Might even be an upgrade to usual

[-] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 5 points 7 months ago

Plus Oxo... that's fancy. They're eating like royalty!

[-] dmention7@lemm.ee 3 points 7 months ago

I thought the same thing. I never knew I wanted my bowls to have handles until just now!

[-] NegativeLookBehind@lemmy.world 11 points 7 months ago

This, in my mind, is a scientific endeavor; you can monitor your cereal/milk intake in milliliters per minute, and I think that’s important to know.

[-] sh__@lemmy.world 9 points 7 months ago

I'm surprised you still have a clean spoon too, unless that's a fork '-'

[-] Fuck_u_spez_@sh.itjust.works 12 points 7 months ago

It is a spoon, and you're not wrong to be surprised... but I had to wash it first.

[-] RamblingPanda@lemmynsfw.com 5 points 7 months ago

I know that struggle

drinks cereal from a cup

[-] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 7 months ago
[-] 01101000_01101001@mander.xyz 9 points 7 months ago

Ok, so, what has been working for me is keep the dishwasher open and racks out. Then, as I use a dish, rinse it and put it in the dishwasher. When it gets full, turn it on. The only thing I haven't solved is putting the dishes up when it's done.

[-] tea@lemmy.today 6 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Yeah, loading and running is not my problem either.

Same with folding laundry.

[-] nifty@lemmy.world 7 points 7 months ago

I once bought new pants instead of having to do laundry

[-] Fuck_u_spez_@sh.itjust.works 6 points 7 months ago

Completely justifiable if you ask me.

[-] rottingleaf@lemmy.zip 1 points 7 months ago

Many times, same with socks. I mean, if you keep them wet for too long, or, eh, wear dirty ones, the fabric wears out much faster.

Uh... that's been me. With Special K, Red Berries no less. I'm not too proud to admit it.

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[-] bhamlin@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago

Or, and hear me out on this one...

No?

[-] CorneliusTalmadge@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago

You’d think so… but somehow no.

[-] Doof@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago

It’s not gonna cure you or anything but something I did was only kept out two of every plate, bowl and utensil. I put the rest away in a place that would take more time to take out than to clean. As I got more into the habit of cleaning the dishes by necessity I would add one more set. Now I have the full set and though I still struggle I am much better at getting my dishes cleaned.

[-] Fuck_u_spez_@sh.itjust.works 1 points 7 months ago

Thanks, that's similar to another suggestion someone shared and I think I may actually try it. It sounds like just the right kind of brain hack for me considering that throwing away all my old, mismatched socks and replacing them with a dozen identical pairs improved my laundry experience by about 300%.

[-] xkforce@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago

Our dishwasher leaks and we dont have the money to fix or replace it. So its all manual washing dishes... when the last bowl, plate and utensil is gone.

[-] thatKamGuy@sh.itjust.works 6 points 7 months ago

I’m quite a procrastinator myself, I’ve found gamification helps get chores done (e.g. do the dishes after dinner, get an hour of gaming time guilt-free).

Throw on a podcast or long-form YT video/stream VOD and shit gets done pretty painless.

[-] skulblaka@startrek.website 3 points 7 months ago

This is the way. I've learned more Elden Ring lore during my dishes and laundry chores than I have playing the game. It takes me longer, because I get distracted by the video, but it doesn't bother me because I'm engaged with something.

[-] Melvin_Ferd@lemmy.world 5 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Is r/twoxchromosome the antithesis of this sub. I feel like all the spouses behavior they complain about is the standard post here

[-] Fuck_u_spez_@sh.itjust.works 6 points 7 months ago

I couldn't tell you. The adhdwomen community is where my people are.

[-] Emmie@lemm.ee 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

jeez can we stop with this gender shit altogether? There’s nothing as exhausting as the gender wars. One needs solid resistance to bullshit which I do not posses. Next time if you wanted to say women this, men this just say humans do that shit

[-] JCreazy@midwest.social 2 points 7 months ago

That is just a man hating sub in general.

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 5 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I'm glad to have a dish washer again after years of living with a broken one. EZPZ to just put the dirty dishes in and turn it on when full.

[-] Grass@sh.itjust.works 2 points 7 months ago

Hell yeah. I'll have my own kitchen and dishwasher again in a couple months for the first time in a couple years.

[-] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 7 months ago

Good cereal choice though.

[-] Fuck_u_spez_@sh.itjust.works 2 points 7 months ago

Delicious. I was feeling fancy and added extra freeze dried strawberries and bananas to another "bowl" after this one.

[-] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 7 months ago

here's a life hack: most dishes can just be rinsed off directly after using them, especially if the only thing it's been in contact with is something watery and water soluble.

There is absolutely no need to wash a bowl you've had cereal in, just rinse it with hot water for a few seconds and you're done.

[-] mxcory@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 7 months ago

But if I were capable I'd immediately rinsing my dishes I wouldn't have a problem washing them.

[-] Renegade_roosteR@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)
[-] ChexMax@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago

I don't think it's the soap and scrubbing that's keeping these dishes from being washed immediately, it's the stopping what you're doing, stand up and bring the soak to the sink immediately that's stopping people. That said I WISH my husband would just Rinse things immediately. He is using the pan literally two feet away from the sink! Just turn and rinse it out while it's still hot!

[-] Renegade_roosteR@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)
[-] Venator@lemmy.nz 1 points 7 months ago

That point is when you buy a dishwasher, then you can just pull a clean dish out of the dishwater 😅

[-] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 2 points 7 months ago

I honestly feel like having a dishwasher is a trap for ADHD people. It makes sense if you're having a party or some dish-involving-event but otherwise you're taking a small task (wash one dish) and turning it into a large task that requires constant overhead in monitoring:

  1. Make sure you start the dishwasher when it's full

  2. Make sure you realize when the dishwasher is full.

  3. Have a multi-minute bulk task of removing and putting away every plate in your house.

  4. Did you put the soap in the dishwasher?

  5. If, for some reason, you used every spoon in existence but otherwise the dishwasher isn't very full - start the dishwasher.

Also, all this is happening behind an opaque door (I've never seen a glass fronted dishwasher, at least) so...

  1. Open the dishwasher, does it contain dishes? Are they clean? Empty the dishwasher.
[-] skulkingaround@sh.itjust.works 10 points 7 months ago

I find the opposite as an ADHD sufferer. When I use a dish, it goes in the dishwasher. If it's full, I run it. If it's clean, I empty it before I put the dirty dish in which takes all of 2 minutes. It basically forces the routine, and I end up running it almost every night and emptying it while I make my morning coffee.

Whereas with hand washing I end up building a pile in the sink and procrastinate until it gets big enough to take half an hour to get through.

[-] DaGeek247@fedia.io 6 points 7 months ago

Nah. Dishwashers use about three gallons for a single wash. Im saving water when i run it with more than four dishes in it. That happens every other night.

[-] Venator@lemmy.nz 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I just start it when I try to put a dish in and it ends up in a janky position, or when I have to get a dirty dish out and clean it. I empty it one dish at a time or when I run out of bench space due to the dirty dishes on the bench 😅

If I don't have a dishwasher I just end up buying take away once all the dishes are dirty...

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