611
“I don’t want to sleep with you.”
is often
“I don’t want you to exist.”
Sometimes it’s “I want to sleep with you, but I don’t want to want to sleep with you.”
Or "I want to sleep with you but I'd rather you die than have anyone find out."
But not always. I'm absolutely behind the point you're making about some people, but if someone wants you dead, it's usually not subtle.
I've met people who use this logic to turn absolutely vicious towards people who have otherwise shown nothing but kindness.
Smoking is an instant nope for me, and for that I've had some girls react like I think smoking makes a person abhorrent and undeserving of love.
(No, I'm not saying trans people can "quit" being trans the way smokers can quit smoking. Just saying that even if a piece of logic is valid, it should be applied with care.)
But smokers are abhorrent and nobody deserves love
Smokers are victims of marketing.
Everybody needs love, if only from themselves.
Yeah, absolutely, very much so, but I don't want to kiss or sleep with smokers, and that's OK.
Everyone deserves love. Nobody is entitled to love.
load more comments
(9 replies)
The point of the meme isn't about whether you personally would want to sleep with someone who is trans, and whether that makes you a good person or not, its about how the first, second, and last thing a lot of people think about wrt trans people is whether they are fuckable or not. Its not good to objectify people, if you do it is transphobic/sexist/racist/whatever dehumanizing. But if you see trans people as people, and respect their gender, their right to express themselves openly even if you aren't sexually attracted to them, then this meme will never be a problem for you. And if you feel personally attacked by this meme, try and figure out why, because it's probably not about you. Don't be a creep isn't that complicated, folks
This post is massive chaser erasure.
We need more chaser erasure.
What is chaser erasure?
Chaser: someone who fetishizes trans or other non hetero-normative people and pursues them as sexual objects.
Erasure refers to the deliberate or unintentional removal, omission, or invalidation of LGBTQIA+(though it can apply to any marginalized group really) identities, histories, and contributions from cultural, social, and institutional recognition.
Op is joking this post is ‘chaser erasure’ because it does not depict someone exhibiting that behavior and instead shows someone claiming they do not want to sleep with trans people.
load more comments
(1 replies)
I like women, I sleep with cis women. I do not want to sleep with trans women. By my personal assessment I'm somewhat transphobic and need to work on that.
Checkmate, lemmy.
Everybody has their preferences and we often make fun of it.
- She wants a wealthy partner, she's a golddigger
- he wants a gf with big tits - mommy issues
- he doesn't want a gf with a penis, he's a big piece of transphobic shit
See, it's just the way we communicate
load more comments
(2 replies)
Maybe you are, but do you feel oppressed?
We've all got biases, invisible or no that we're working on, like you said. Better to know them though
load more comments
(1 replies)
load more comments
(1 replies)
NGL im super into tomboys and genderfluid people. But the idea of having sex with someone who has a penis is off-putting to me. Idk
That just means you have a sexual preference lol
load more comments
(10 replies)
Weird how they feel the need to announce it instead of just having it. Almost like announcing it serves a social function, and it is obvious if you frame the same phenomenon through another bias:
"I only sleep with blond haired blue eyed white women"
Also fuck you have no idea how often I hear something about how trans women are unfuckable after turning a guy down.
Exactly - if you don't want to date a trans person don't. If someone conceals it, that's not an issue with them being trans, that's an issue with them being dishonest. It's ok to dislike dishonest people.
I've always contended that you shouldn't care about what turns someone on unless you wanna fuck em.
excluding liking kids or animals. and relatives or nonconsenting people if relevant
What goes on between two or more non related consenting adults is no ones business but their own.
I just genuinely don't care what people do in their bedroom.
What about the kitchen?
You don't use Le Creuset? Swipe left!
The kitchen is an abomination free zone.
All that is about consent. Except the relatives thing. Which is gross but not necessarily my business
load more comments
(2 replies)
[Laughs in pansexual]
If your position is "I would never sleep with a trans person" you're just transphobic. I usually respond with "but what if they pass and are post op?" and the answer is almost always still no, because the problem isn't some specific sexual preference, the problem is they still view you as your AGAB.
Idk, I actually think it's valid to cut out groups of people from your potential fuck pool. Like, everybody already does this. Straight people cut out everyone of their own gender. How is this different? If I don't want to have sex with someone, how is that in any way a bad thing?
view more: next ›
this post was submitted on 20 Jul 2024
611 points (89.6% liked)
Memes
45417 readers
1281 users here now
Rules:
- Be civil and nice.
- Try not to excessively repost, as a rule of thumb, wait at least 2 months to do it if you have to.
founded 5 years ago
MODERATORS