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submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by dustbunnies@hexbear.net to c/neurodiverse@hexbear.net

jk, of course. honestly feels a little shitty to make this joke, but I know she's not on Hexbear and it helps me feel better about this situation, so 🤷😂

jfc, it is genuinely shocking to understand this as her impression of me – just not at all the social feedback that I am used to

cannot tell you how many times I have been told I come off bitchy and c*nty and self-righteous – that sentence was genuinely astounding and I am still reeling, hence the post

lea-think

officially AuDHD, with suggestion to seek OCD help as well

if you've been assessed, how did you feel about your results? did it take you a year to fully assimilate them? 😂 feeling like it's gonna take me at least that long to really take all of this in

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[-] dustbunnies@hexbear.net 21 points 3 weeks ago

the assessment report is THIRTEEN PAGES

🤯

just so fucking weird to read about myself in this way. when it's depersonalized like this, I feel really bad for this lady, but when I'm living it, I fucking hate her.

wild how much of a difference third-person language makes.

[-] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago

Strange how they judge appearance. But I guess being unkept could be a sign of depression. I just wonder if you dressed like a punk what they would write.

[-] NephewAlphaBravo@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

They probably wouldn't care, that line is more for clear hygiene concerns or like, extremely damaged or seasonally inappropriate clothes. It comes up a lot with people who need assistance with those things for whatever reason.

[-] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago

Oh good. For some reason my brain goes right to the "Why are they judging my style" defensiveness haha

[-] dustbunnies@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago

being unkept could be a sign of depression

that's how I took that bit as well

I purposely chose a neurodivergent assessor, so I'd like to think if I'd shown up as my wildly fun art school self from 20 years ago, she still would have seen me as "kempt" 😂 I don't think she would have taken punk regalia as unkempt, either; she seemed very fucking cool

honestly I wish she were my friend and not my assessor, she had very chill vibes

[-] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 6 points 3 weeks ago

That's awesome she seems cool

[-] mathemachristian@hexbear.net 7 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

That is a lot if self-doxxing!! You just posted incedible amounts of personal information, medical information and very intimate details about your entire life!! Please reconsider if you want to share this much info with complete strangers!

I'm talking about the [redacted] section in particular

[-] dustbunnies@hexbear.net 4 points 3 weeks ago

it didn't seem that way to me because very little of that information is available elsewhere – I told her things I've not told anyone but my husband, and it didn't seem like it would be possible to doxx me with stuff not otherwise connected to my identity – and was in general enough terms to not feel particularly revealing, but I know I'm not in a great place for good judgement right now, so I deleted it

[-] mathemachristian@hexbear.net 7 points 3 weeks ago

It's your info to do with what you please and I hope you get to a better place. I definitely do not want to discourage you from posting your experience(s). The devil with doxxing is in the details however and it's the sum of all the little details that paints a picture.

Posted by someone who is very prone to oversharing on the internet.

[-] ReadFanon@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago

The devil with doxxing is in the details however and it's the sum of all the little details that paints a picture.

I posted this comment a few days ago and you're 100% correct about that.

[-] Snackuleata@hexbear.net 6 points 3 weeks ago

Main thing I remember from my assessment is I was called handsome. But my parents knew beforehand and it was a bit of a shock and relief to have an explanation for why I am the way I am. In hindsight, they didn't catch the depression, so the therapy wasn't the silver bullet to my issues I'd hoped it would be. But I'm glad for you for figuring yourself out more!

[-] dustbunnies@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago

Main thing I remember from my assessment is I was called handsome.

made me think of this meme

just so adorable and "oh me?" ❤️❤️❤️

therapy wasn't the silver bullet to my issues I'd hoped it would be.

no expectations of silver bullets here, I'm at the point of looking for scraps of kindling to rebuild my life-raft 😂 I think I'm too old to actually believe in silver bullets anymore, but definitely not too old to wish for them.

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