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[-] BallShapedMan@lemmy.world 92 points 2 months ago

I don't even make the chart? CIS father of a trans kid trying to make the trans kid laugh when they try to get my attention at the store by saying "Dad!"

[-] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 41 points 2 months ago
[-] BallShapedMan@lemmy.world 43 points 2 months ago

This! This is the right response! Thank you! 🤣

[-] Droggelbecher@lemmy.world 17 points 2 months ago

When I was a fresh teacher, a teenager asked 'can I go to the bathroom?' and I was excited to finally drop the classic 'idk if you CAN, but you MAY'. And they laughed. I wanted a groan. Very disappointed.

[-] frayedpickles@lemmy.cafe 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Yeah I dont think I've heard of anyone saying this to make fun of trans people.

It's not quite like the attack helicopter "joke" although that follows the same ratio of conservatives/making fun of conservatives.

[-] BallShapedMan@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago
[-] frayedpickles@lemmy.cafe 6 points 2 months ago

It's not funny so you might have missed it, but people like to say they "identify as an attack helicopter". Conservatives, so "people" is accurate but a little bit of a stretch.

[-] BallShapedMan@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

Oh right, yeah I've heard that but didn't think of it. It's not funny, just assholes being assholes.

[-] HawlSera@lemm.ee 57 points 2 months ago

The ONE time I heard this, I said it myself at the Gamestop where I'm a regular as a joke.

I was asked Cash or Credit, and I in a faux-outraged voice just asked "Did you just assume my tender?"

Then me and the cashier laughed.

[-] samus12345@lemm.ee 17 points 2 months ago

The pun is great, but they actually didn't assume your tender because they asked what you wanted to use.

[-] troglodytis@lemmy.world 11 points 2 months ago

They assumed it wouldn't be a cheque

[-] samus12345@lemm.ee 7 points 2 months ago

True, true, they still assumed a binary choice. Withdrawn!

[-] HawlSera@lemm.ee 2 points 2 months ago

You got a lot of nerve being right.

[-] bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de 48 points 2 months ago

Yeah, the only time I actually heard that phrase in real life was at a transsexual gaming night, followed by a burst of laughter.

[-] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 2 months ago

pls say transgender thanksies <3

[-] letsgo@lemm.ee 18 points 2 months ago

Did you just assume Gaming Night's transness? Transsexual is a thing, and it's distinct from transgender.

[-] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 2 months ago

It's not really that distinct, no. Not unless you're transmed and believe pre and post op trans people need to divided from each other.

Youre free to use whatever terms you'd like to use for yourself, but transsexual was how people referred to all transgender people until the term transgender took off in the late 90s.

[-] AFaithfulNihilist@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago

You might say that term is a bit of a time warp.

[-] dean@beehaw.org 2 points 2 months ago

go on bluesky and nearly the entire trans community uses the word transsexual. not in a transmed way (the community, at least my bubble, was very anti-transmed), but rather a "much of my trans identity comes from body dysphoria" way. when I was experimenting with bsky it was definitely a culture shock lol. I ultimately ditched bsky for separate reasons though

[-] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 months ago

oh, then i am very sorri. i as genuinely not aware and assumed that it was an old-timey word. i apologize.

[-] frayedpickles@lemmy.cafe 4 points 2 months ago

Even if it were an old timey word what's the issue?

[-] Lemminary@lemmy.world 14 points 2 months ago

It implies a sex change op which is quite invasive of people's privacy. It's also inaccurate for a lot of trans folks who may only change their gender expression and avoid the operation altogether, hence the adoption of transgender that has the right emphasis.

[-] frayedpickles@lemmy.cafe -1 points 2 months ago

Not what I asked, but understood

[-] Sop@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 months ago

It seems quite literally what you asked? If not then you should rephrase.

[-] Lemminary@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

What's the issue?
It has the wrong implications.

Sorry, I wasn't clear!

~It~ ~also~ ~sounds~ ~lewd~ ~but~ ~there's~ ~a~ ~similar~ ~debate~ ~about~ ~"queer"~ ~even~ ~though~ ~that~ ~one~ ~has~ ~been~ ~mostly~ ~reclaimed.~

[-] Dragonborn3810@lemmy.world 12 points 2 months ago

Not op, but I was taught by one of my trans friends it was an old term and not very correct nowadays as it inferred being trans was something sexual and not just yknow, bring trans ig

[-] Droggelbecher@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

Can you explain what it means to me? I'm nb and I've always disliked it because it tends to confuse people, making them think being trans is a sexuality.

[-] jabathekek@sopuli.xyz 39 points 2 months ago

I identify as an A-10 Warthog.

"You will never be a rea-"

BRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRT

[-] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 2 months ago
[-] NickwithaC@lemmy.world 29 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

You forgot "cis allies making fun on cis transphobes" which I calculate to be a larger slice of the pie than all the others combined.

[-] SirSamuel@lemmy.world 19 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

🟩 me when accosted by an irate middle aged woman while exiting the pointlessly gendered single seat bathroom (I am a fully housebroken husband)

ETA: by housebroken I mean i sit when i pee and clean up anything left on the bowl or seat that flushing doesn't handle. It's just good manners

[-] finitebanjo@lemmy.world 17 points 2 months ago

Actually, trans is like 0.1% of the total population, so that sliver of trans people who say that should much tinier.

[-] mayhair@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 2 months ago
[-] WhatSay@slrpnk.net 13 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

This is accurate. Source: me and my genderqueer friends

[-] TypicalHog@lemm.ee 3 points 2 months ago

People have evolved stereotyping and assuming things cause it was beneficial from the evolutionary perspective.

[-] djsoren19@yiffit.net 9 points 2 months ago

Still is, people use heuristic thinking every day of their lives. It's not like we'd be better off removing that part of us, the ability to make quick and decisive decisions should be applauded. We just need to remember that the first conclusion we jump to is not always correct.

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