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Like, you just look weird if you sitting by yourself (example: waiting at a bus stop) and just stairing into space, so like its basically social expectation to be on your phone when you are by yourself.

Plus, just feels like if you don't have a phone on you, you are missing a lot of information (access to the internet, maps, etc.) that you might need in case you get lost or something.

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[-] urata@lemmy.world 7 points 3 weeks ago

I do not. I don't feel awkward necessarily just sitting there doing nothing but I also tend to avoid situations where I am like that because I do get bored and impatient fairly easily. I also just don't like phones. I don't do much with mine other than the things I find very useful like calls, text messaging and maps. I much prefer my PC whenever possible.

I'm American, and I'm 40. I didn't have a mobile phone until I was like 19 and didn't have a smartphone until I was probably about 28 or something.

I understand why people would feel awkward without their phones for sure. Especially if that's what they are used to. I used to smoke cigarettes and I remember kinda feeling silly just standing there not smoking after I quit.

[-] imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works 6 points 3 weeks ago

I feel weird if I'm taking a shit and I don't have my phone with me, forget about leaving the house without it.

[-] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 3 weeks ago

Time to study air freshener first aid.

[-] OmegaLemmy@discuss.online 4 points 3 weeks ago

I only get as awkward as the distance travelled

I'd be fine going to the mall, bit iffed since I don't have music to accompany me

I'd be damned if I visit hierapolis without my phone on me, fuck knows how I'll get back if I also lose my wallet

[-] rabber@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 weeks ago

I don't even know how I survived the 90s. When you were waiting for the bus the most entertaining thing you could do was stare at your shoes or throw a rock at the stop sign

[-] Mosfar@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 weeks ago

A bit, I need it for contactless payments as in my country we use eletronic payments for almost everything

[-] MicrowavedTea@infosec.pub 3 points 3 weeks ago

For the second yes, but mostly because I get lost very easily. The first not really, many people outside are not on their phones.

If you take public transport, everyone is on their phones. Well maybe not exactly on their phone but some are listening to music/podcast via headphone/earbuds that are playing on their phone.

Maybe you live in a rural area and people are less attached, but in cities, everyone is addicted af.

[-] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 3 weeks ago

If I take public transport, then I look outside the window.

Hmm, maybe on a bus or train above ground. On a subway, there's nothing besides the dark void of the tunnels.

[-] Libb@jlai.lu 1 points 3 weeks ago

Maybe you live in a rural area and people are less attached, but in cities, everyone is addicted af

I live in Paris, France (hopefully enough of a city to qualify?) but I'm not 'addicted af' (not at all, for that matter) and neither is my spouse, nor are quite a few of the people we know ;)

That said I also see a lot of people walking looking at their screen, bicycling looking at their screen, driving and looking at their screen. And I see a lot of accidents too. I wonder, could there be a link?

[-] Libb@jlai.lu 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Do you feel weird/anxious if you go outside and don't have a phone with you?

Nope. I sometimes forget my phone at home, no big deal I seldom use it. And even when I don't forget it I have zero social apps or games installed on it, not even email ;)

I only use it to pass phone calls and to manage IDs and finances (and it's only because my banks all require me to use their stupid apps, I would gladly tell them to go funk themselves but I need to be able to access my accounts).

What I never forget and I never hesitate to use whan I have the opportunity is a pocket book, so I always have something to read (without distraction, aka no Internet) and a pocket notebook/pen so I can write stuff (without any distraction, bugs, updates or whatever...) and in both case without any worry about being tracked.

so like its basically social expectation to be on your phone when you are by yourself.

Is it? And then people are surprised they're exhausted, and constantly anxious and/or angry at one another? Doom scrolling is poison for the mind and for the soul. I'd rather look around, or speak with people.

you are missing a lot of information

Do I? Well, so far it has not caused me much issues.

that you might need in case you get lost or something.

When that happens, I ask my way around to people. It sometime is a nice opportunity to start a real conversation ;)

edit: typos and clarification.

[-] andrewta@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

Only because I help to take care of my mom so if she calls and I don't answer... That could be bad

[-] PostnataleAbtreibung@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

No. I usually read books anyway, and i tend to forget my phone very often. So nothing unusual.

[-] hendrik@palaver.p3x.de 2 points 3 weeks ago

Bring a book or newspaper/magazine. Those people are the minority but it's still fairly common to see people read on the train or at the bus stop.

[-] Rentlar@lemmy.ca 2 points 3 weeks ago

If it's just a local trip, I don't really care, as long as I'm confident I just left it somewhere at home. Sometimes feels awkward on the bus because everyone besides the local homeless person or the group riders talking to each other is on their phone, but it's fine.

If I'm somewhere unfamiliar I can get very paranoid as I worry if I dropped it, it got stolen, or if something else happens I wouldn't know where to go.

[-] Boozilla@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 weeks ago

No. I'm an 80s kid. It's kind of nice once in a while to forget it.

I imagine people with their phone in their faces while shopping, walking their dogs, etc. must have max anxiety over even the fleeting thought of not having their precious.

[-] Daze@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 weeks ago

Yes, very anxious. I dread being in any situation where I won't at least have an opportunity to dial for emergency services.

[-] sevon@lemmy.kde.social 1 points 3 weeks ago

Just walk outside, no.

example: waiting at a bus stop

Yeah, cause it means I left the ticket home.

in case you get lost or something

Yeah, in a weird environment it could help a lot

and just stairing into space, so like its basically social expectation to be on your phone when you are by yourself.

Anyone who thinks it's weird to not be glued to the screen can go fuck themselves.

[-] FelixCress@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

Yes, it is odd these days.

[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 1 points 3 weeks ago

I haven't had a phone in years.

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