Just gonna hit you with some hard truths.

He's not that in to you. If he was he wouldn't just ignore you ("doesn't use social media a lot" is not an explanation for not communicating). If he was he would be ready for a relationship rn.

Like most guys his age (myself too, 20 years ago) he likes the idea of you wanting him but he doesn't actually care about you.

99.999999% of the time, the answer to "should I get back with my ex" is NO.

Even if everything he says is true he needs to learn to treat people better and not at the expense of your time and feelings. Leave him behind, work on yourself however feels right to you and you will very likely barely remember his name a decade from now. Don't EVER settle for that sort of treatment.

Not mentioning you when mentioning everyone else is not bad mental health. It's called being an asshole.

I've skimmed through this and this is all a recipe for what I keep referring to these situations as - a yo-yo effect. And this post has that written all over it for it to happen. This back and forth waves of feelings and those becoming conflicted with things that happened. How old are you? I'm curious because this all also sounds like this is just one of those cases of puppy-love, which is a phase all teenagers and even young adults go through.

The answer for this particular case is 'No', because it sounds like everything is everywhere and it's going to set itself up for failure. Reason being is that neither of you really sound like you're truly grounded down into what you actually want and are chasing for a better version of the same things when you got together in the first place. It's like - why?

There's like a billion other options. You said you're young, no need to limit options, at all. Wait for someone who really cares for you and you'll forget him so fast.

If your asking the question you already know the answer, at this point your looking for confirmation the choice you are making is the right one.

He's going to do it again, you're being delusional if you think he will change in the next few years.

Move on.

Always a bad idea. Breakups happen for a reason and it's always best to move on than hang on to a broken relationship.

Girl. Have some dignity and kick him to the curb because it's clear he's not really interested in you. He probably wants you on standby in case his dick or his ego need stroking. Don't make excuses for someone who's mistreating you, especially at such a young age - you're just inviting dysfunction. You can and will do better, but not if he's in the way. Good luck.

Like the other comment said, ghosting is not an excuse even with poor mental health. I’m about 6 years older than you and I know if I was having anxiety, for example, I would not ignore or abandon my girlfriend over it.

He can still try to make time for you, even if it’s not a lot, and then explain why he’s been less talkative rather than flat-out ignore you.

However, by what you said, Sam seems to acknowledge that and realizes he was wrong for it. That’s a start.

he also “forgot” about me when he would give gifts to other people, wouldn’t mention me under “people he appreciates” but would mention everyone else, and wouldn’t even tell people abt me.

This concerns me. The other stuff is bad enough even if he acknowledges it but I wouldn’t say he was ever a good BF regardless of mental health from this.

Not only should you wait until his mental health gets better, but for him to mature. He’s probably inexperienced with dating and emotionally immature at just 19.

Hope you find someone else in the meantime 💖 It seems he’s not meeting your needs and frankly wasn’t too loving to begin with. And yeah, try being friends but remember: Just because he’s a good friend doesn’t mean he’s a good boyfriend.

I’m feeling cute, enjoy these pictures I made!! (Seriously, they’re supposed to make you feel better, not be offended)

Being in poor mental health isn't an excuse for ghosting. Ghosting suggests he doesn't value your wellbeing over his own: it's a pretty cruel thing to do to someone, and deeply selfish. You're still young. In your shoes, I think I'd explore other relationships before diving back into one with several red flags.

To answer the question in the title id say

"What issues led to the break up and has that changed. If yes then go for it, if not then no"

After reading the post I'd say

Don't wait for him. Try and move on. If he wants to get back together later consider it then.

Honestly I've had people say that to me as a way to let me down easy rather than actually mean it. Waiting was a mistake.

And I'm not saying he doesn't mean it, maybe he does. But you'll love again. You're young. Grieve the relationship and move on. Judge later if he's worth getting back together if that happens.

That's the best advice i can give.

This can be an unpopular opinion, but...While I found stupid the ghosting and I condemn his behavior, I wouldn't expect a 20yo to know how to manage those kind of situations.
Also, trying again, trying harder, would not be a symptom of weakness: if you're both willing to do it, you should; to clarify: trying harder does not mean to be more patient or tolerant towards things one does not like, but working to find better solutions for old and new problems.

I wouldn't get back with someone who ghosted me.

Didn't even read the body of the post, only the headline.

Yes. It's a bad idea.

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