At the same time, they are also incredibly fragile. The wrong words at the wrong time can have an affect on them for a lifetime.

Yup. Like having to re-break and reset a bone that didn’t set correctly. Technically it healed, but it healed in the warped way it was left, and to bring it back to normal you basically have to walk it through its trauma again and let it heal the correct way.

As I got older I thought "Thankfully I grew up in a very normal household and turned out to be a very normal person without any psychological trauma."

And then I got a little older still and realized that wasn't true at all.

Is it resilience to succumb to trauma and push the bad feelings all the way down? I’m glad they got through it, of course, but if we’re talking about definitions then I’m not 100% sold. Resilience, to me, is defined by resisting being wounded in the first place but I will concede that many perspectives will see a few scars as a good trade for whatever else could have happened.

Kids are smarter than we like to believe, and personally I believe in treating them better than the attitude of “because I said so” does(but still also understand that things like trying them as minors and having a relatively high age of consent are good, of course). They are, however, also way more fragile and malleable.

I hope you keep that promise for the rest of your life.

To have such resilience in the face of the storm is proof of strength within you. I truly believe you are more capable than you may realize, especially if you channeled a fraction of that strength into something that builds you up instead of tearing you down.
If you're going to sit through the rain you may as well plant some flowers.

If she gets exasperated by that statement alone, she'd be in the wrong business.

yeah it's a pretty complicated thing to respond to. it's definitely an insightful comment

Ehhhhhhhhhh…….

Also, choosing to go to therapy literally demonstrates resilience.

Juat cos you havent finished growing up yet!

(Possibly my most childish comment - in proud of the irony)

Not all adults need a traditional doctor, but checkups mean catching things before they become a problem in either case.

I too would love to clarify what the basis is everyone is commenting from. Like theres no way to identify whats the core situation for this person here or am I wrong