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[-] Hossenfeffer@feddit.uk 0 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Mine are all pretty mild.

Everyone reading all the time at home. Pretty much every room had bookcases, full to bursting with books. When I was old enough to have friends around they all said how weird it was to have so many books.

My parents were really emotionally distant. I don't recall either of them telling them they loved me - or each other for that matter. No hugs or kisses. More than one of my girlfriends called me an emotional cripple.

Home-cooked food every night. We never ate out, never had takeaway. My mum was a great cook though so although my friends seemed to think it was weird I'd never had a MacDonalds when I finally did try it I didn't understand the hype.

Oh, and the poop knife, of course.

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[-] taxiiiii@lemmy.world 0 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Nobody "dresscoded" me at home. As soon as I was old enough to pick my own clothing, I could. What skirts or jeans or dresses I wore was my choice completely. My school also didn't care much.

Blew my mind when I realized how many other girls had to sneak out with their clothes because the parents had a rule against tight jeans or whatever.

I still think my parents were right with this one. The kids with the strictest rules were always those with the craziest outfits. Can't blame them, I'd have done the same.

[-] VitoRobles@lemmy.today 0 points 3 weeks ago

When I was a teen, I believed in that too. The most strict parents had the most wild kids.

As an adult, it's now verified.

[-] gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com -1 points 3 weeks ago

My parents were the chill, openly weed-smoking guys that wouldn't rat you out to your parents if you needed help (like a place to stay while coming down or whatever)

This policy was explicitly because my dad worked yard supervision at the local elementary schools and 100% knew that those with the strictest parents were the ones who needed it the most as they had nowhere safe to go. The abused kids were second, many of them were neglect babies in our area so they got fucked up and went home to parents who didn't care

I went to a charter school for my freshman year that was mostly full of people who were kicked out of the school they kick you out of if you're a problem child. Almost all of them were children of parents who worked long-ass days and came home to be strict as fuck

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[-] Snowclone@lemmy.world 0 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I, as a boy, ran through my cousin's to change my clothes on my way to the bus.

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[-] architectonas@lemmy.world 0 points 3 weeks ago

Watching porn to get relief.

I – as many other guys in this society – learned to watch porn at a young age. So I wired sexual stimulation as well as the dopamine release after orgasm to porn. For many years of my life, I would not masturbate without it.

I denied my addiction because everyone watches porn, right? Also I thought, being addicted to porn means sitting at home all day fapping and watching more and more perverse stuff. So I can't be addicted, if I watch porn once a week, right?

Well, it took me a long time to figure all that out. The society having such a positive attitude towards porn did not help. Maybe, we all are addicted. I think it's super fucked up. If not due to the effect it has on our brains, then at least due to the humiliation of women for capital.

[-] blarghly@lemmy.world 0 points 3 weeks ago

An addiction is when your habit starts having significant negative impacts on your life. So, for example, if you are choosing to stay home and watch porn instead of going to work, buying groceries, go out with friends, or sleep with actual women, then yes, you have a porn addiction.

If you jerk off on a Tuesday night before you go to bed... that's fine. Watch porn, or don't, it doesn't matter. If you enjoy your life more when you don't watch porn for whatever reason, that's fine too. You do you. But regularly watching porn isn't an addiction any more than regularly grabbing a beer with friends on a Friday night makes you an alcoholic.

Also, yes, there is a problem of the exploitation of women in some porn. Some porn studios do take advantage of women. But women aren't "humiliated" simply by being in porn. There is nothing wrong with a woman willingly engaging in any kind of sexual act in front of a camera, whether it's plain ol missionary or an interracial CNC gangbang. Many women enjoy making porn and sharing it - just peruse FetLife and you can see tons of porn made completely for free, just for fun.

Like, really. Unless it's a problem, it's not a problem.

[-] architectonas@lemmy.world 0 points 2 weeks ago

FetLife is a good counterexample I did not know yet. And I completely agree: there is nothing wrong with women willingly doing porn.

But looking at other freely available porn, I cannot agree that only some porn studios treat their actors like submissive cash cows doing literally anything to feed the dopamine rush of their viewers. Sure the actors are paid for it. Prostitutes also get paid and still nobody would claim they are enjoying their job. In the end, we all need money to survive.

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[-] nickiwest@lemmy.world 0 points 2 weeks ago

My family was super meat-centric for all holidays except Thanksgiving and Christmas.

Any meal where it's physically possible to barbecue, we would. And a family barbecue meant hamburgers, hot dogs, chicken, pork steaks, and beef steaks -- one of each per person, plus a couple of extras. Sides were German-style slaw and potato salad. Buns were not included, but my grandma would always put a stack of white bread on the table (she was the only person who ever ate it).

When I started dating my husband and took him to a family holiday, he was shocked by the fact that my whole family was eating hamburgers and hot dogs with flatware instead of on buns. And he was actually sad at the lack of side dishes.

When I went to one of his family barbecues, I was sad that there was just one hamburger per person (already on a soggy bun) and a ton of weird casseroles.

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[-] GuyFawkes@midwest.social 0 points 3 weeks ago

Long, skinny stools. Turns out it was because of a precancerous blockage.

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[-] davetapley@lemmy.world 0 points 2 weeks ago

When I was much younger: that normal people could see much further than me.

One of my oldest memories is going into a McDonald's for the first time with glasses; I stopped and read the entire menu, because I couldn't believe normal people could read it as soon as you walked in. I always had to get up to the counter to make it out.

I got a lot better in school after that!

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[-] callouscomic@lemm.ee 0 points 3 weeks ago

The way I was raised.

[-] callyral@pawb.social 0 points 3 weeks ago

That people poo every day or every other day, not once a week.

[-] tiredofsametab@fedia.io 0 points 3 weeks ago

3/week to 3/day is considered normal in many docs I read. As my body started to hate gluten, I was up to like 6/day. Now back down to 2-3 (but sorely missing bread, pizza, etc.)

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[-] Syd@lemm.ee 0 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

There's both types, but most don't realize the other one exists.

[-] shottymcb@lemm.ee 0 points 2 weeks ago

I'm not sure how we got on the topic, but it came up in a drunken conversation with a friend. I'm fully converted to a sit down wiper now.

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[-] 2ugly2live@lemmy.world 0 points 3 weeks ago
  • "Maladaptive Daydreaming"
  • I have an issue with being remembered in person (at least that's what my therapist said). I will go to different chains of the same store on rotation, or stop going to a store all together if they remember me "too much." I'll wait until shift changes or that it's been long enough that they've forgotten about me. I've stopped going to certain places all together if there's no alternatives. Outside of lemmy, I have no social media. I don't want anyone to ever be able to look me up. Apparently people don't do that.
  • Using different cutlery based off of meal size/how long you want to savor something (ex: You like ice cream, so you may eat it with a smaller spoon so it lasts longer.).
  • Wondering what people were thinking/picturing when they bought their clothes (not in a "wow, that's ugly, what were they thinking" but what they saw themselves as. Did they see this suit and think of themselves as a ceo? Did she buy thay dress and imagine the places she'll wear it? That sort of thing).
  • Having multiple paths to one place. I could get to my classes or office multiple ways. I would rotate, take these stairs one day, this elevator the next, etc.
  • I believed everyone had some kind of food that would give them the boo-boos. I'm actually just lactose intolerant.
[-] Viskio_Neta_Kafo@lemm.ee 0 points 3 weeks ago

I have that issue #2 at least when it comes to going to stores and restaurants. As soon as the staff recognizes me I never want to go again for some reason.

I have massive social anxiety that's probably the main part of it.

[-] 2ugly2live@lemmy.world 0 points 3 weeks ago

Same! I don't know why, but it's like, "they were nice... I can never come here again."

[-] morrowind@lemmy.ml 0 points 2 weeks ago

It's not that bad for me, but fear of being perceived, fear of being know.. It's all a giant mess

[-] Viskio_Neta_Kafo@lemm.ee 0 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

For me at least I think has is something like:

If I'm odd and they don't know me I'm just an odd customer. But if I'm odd and a regular than I'm an odd person they are thinking about a lot and that makes me nervous like I might mess up.

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[-] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 0 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I skateboard mongo and was surprised to learn that I'm basically a mutant and shouldn't be able to interact with others like normal people.

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[-] dingus@lemmy.world 0 points 3 weeks ago

I remember one day realizing it was odd that my dad would hug my mom but my mom would never hug him back. She would just stand there and let him hug her. Yeah he was an abusive husband and I was very happy for her when she finally left him after over a decade!

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