Both exist, but neither has much content yet.

!atbge@lemmy.world

!diwhy@lemmy.world

I don't use callbacks, and I don't leave messages, because no company has ever actually called me back. It's a great idea, but IME they never execute it.

There's a wide spectrum of responses people can have to a breakup. Anger to the point of violence is naturally low in most modern societies, but it does exist.

When you have that breakup moment in person, you force a lot of emotions to flood them all at once. Often, they thought things were going well. This creates a strong sense of rejection, hurts their self-esteem, and puts them immediately on the defensive. It can also trigger a fight-or-flight response, and manifest as anger.

Ghosting flattens the curve. Over the course of days or weeks, the ghostee more gradually recognizes and comes to terms with the fact that the ghoster is no longer interested in them. This often happens without there being a flashpoint moment to set them off.

It's still rude, but I absolutely see the value in it

Currently, the biggest challenge will be storage. Any images or videos uploaded directly to Lemmy (as opposed to linking a 3rd-party site) takes up space on every instance that federates that post. For large instances, this can get overwhelming.

Aside from that, the server specs to host Lemmy, even a large/popular instance, are remarkably low. It can easily be covered by just a handful of users, and not even particularly generous users.

One of the major instances (lemmy.ml? Maybe lemmy.world? I can't find the post right now) recently posted that they completed a massive spec upgrade for their instance. It was remarkably reasonable, and could very easily be covered by donations. Something like 4 vCPUs and 32GB RAM. Or, failing that, (and I know a lot of people will balk at this), a single non-datamined ad at the top of the page.

Not to go too far down this rabbit hole, but it certainly sounds like bad actors. Where did the existing toolset fall short? Were there mods? Did they remove these posts/comments? Minimum account ages?

Once we identify the tools needed to fight the spam, they get deployed. If effective, the spammers move on to the next arms to push their wares. I know I saw a LOT of comments shortly before the end of Reddit that the parent was a karma-farming bot.

We will always be behind the curve, since it's the nature of being reactive, but hopefully we can keep the return low enough to make it not worth the effort for most.

Use lemmyverse.net to find communities across all instances. It will make you search a lot easier, and show you when a community exists on multiple instances

What's interesting about this is that there really isn't an r/All. All@lemmy.world will be different from All@beehaw.org, will be different from All@lemmy.ml, and will be VERY different from All@lemmynsfw.com

The ones with just the recipe exist, but you won't find them on Google/etc. It's a known issue with their Page Rank system.

A lot of them now are including a link at the top to jump to the recipe

Checks to make sure my instance federates with them

Yup, thank you! I thought LemmyNSFW was our single point of failure

Much like a train wreck, part of me wants to see that. But I also know that like a train wreck, I'd turn away as soon as it was actually in front of me

Is the fee actually illegal? If so, file a complaint with your state Attorney General