What y'all looking forward to this month? I'm just glad to clear off a bunch of work stuff and I got various craft and preloved markets to look forward to.
Yes. I am right now, one of the best versions of myself emotionally and psychologically. I would love to spend some time with someone who geeks about the same things, committed to learning and growth, and wouldn't have a problem with taking time away from each other to still be our own person.
Wow, this is harder to answer than I thought.
Yes to relatively normal, well-taken photos showing the person in a range of activities/places/moods. They are only showing their personality and interests, after all.
No to:
- only group photos
- no photos of the person at all, just items or abstract pics
- 3-5 of the same front camera, looking-down-at-phone photo
- photos that seem outdated, especially if it's of an older man with one child (classic scammer)
- holding a fish
Stop wasting your time with this guy. If he's really into you and into developing a relationship, he'll make the effort. Sounds like you're not even on the list of priorities. Don't invest in someone who isn't investing in you.
I'm older (F40+) and going through dating apps is a whole waste of time. It's mostly scammers looking for lonely older women to scam, and dudes who don't bother filling out their bios. Very hard to find anyone who would last more than a couple of days of "hi" and "how ru" back and forth.
The best match I ever had was in Singapore, while I was in the departure lounge at Changi. He started out strong, and the banter was great and we did exchange Telegram handles. But he stopped making effort to develop any conversations, and when I tried, he gave short answers that told me nothing about him. Now you'd think he wasn't interested but he was the one who initiates. Eventually I stopped replying to the uninspiring "hi".
My toxic trait is that if I'm busy, I ignore non-urgent or low-effort attempts to engage.
Privacy issues on Lemmy: https://raddle.me/f/lobby/155371/warning-lemmy-doesn-t-care-about-your-privacy-everything-is
I'm still reading up on it, but this is concerning if it's true.
[ vibing - figuratively and literally - in my 40s ]
Hello, I am auntie.
c/Sarawak claimed!
I don't know about everyone else, but I've left Reddit. It's an easy decision for me since I didn't become active until this year and didn't put down a lot of roots. I came over here immediately when I found out that r/Malaysia (and r/Malaysians) got their own place because it's the only subreddit that I missed in the blackout.
However, I agree that it's hard to just drop something that you spend years building. I have this exact problem with an FB Page.
I think the best way forward is to complement r/my by hosting things that don't fit over there. I love it that we can create specific communities here - I might pick up c/Sarawak if we plan to continue, and if unker needs a co-mod over at 'Dating, Relationship Advice, Personals', consider this me volunteering.
I had kueh chap for brunch. Spoiler for tak halal.
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Make sure you stay hydrated!