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[-] UltimateUsermaim 7 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I have a boomer-ish pet peeve.

I hate it when someone don't greet or introduce themselves when entering a new place

I get it you're an introvert. I don't expect you to interact with me everytime. I'm an introvert as well. But at least greet once when you're introducing yourself. And That's it. That's the minimum fkin requirements. I see this everytime whenever I have to enter a new department and some students don't do it. I get it. It's overwhelming. I did too in the past and it's why I make a point not to do it.

My brother's girlfriend came over yesterday and she's been in the room ever since. I never saw her once. Never introduce herself no greeting. God I hope she's not the type that locks herself up in the room until she need something only then she comes out.

I've had a few cousins like that.

[-] ztirk 4 points 9 months ago

Why not prompt them to introduce themselves instead?

[-] UltimateUsermaim 2 points 9 months ago

Yes in a general sense I agree with you. It's a two way thing.

But some situations warrants the guest to start first. And some older folks, they want you to take initiative and start first. Believe me I got scolded many times in the past for not introducing myself. Which is fair. I'm the stranger going into their land. I'm the one who has to appear friendly and non harmful to their place.

[-] cendawanita 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

These days I just langgar tembok and terrorise the younger person into an introductory chat before leaving them alone. I figure it's a lot more effective from an introvert pov lol - 1. I broke the ice; 2. I don't get to terasa; 3. If they're cool they're gonna say hi at another time as membalas, if not they'll turn turtle and it's not my fault XD

[-] ztirk 2 points 9 months ago

Yeah I get that, it's good etiquette to start first when you're younger, but I guess it's just the next best option. There's always the ~~passive~~ aggressive "Eh? No need introduce yourself ah?"

[-] Annoyed_Crabby 3 points 9 months ago

Yeah, at least a "hi" would be nice.

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[-] SheenTStars 6 points 9 months ago

I talked to my SIL yesterday to hear her side of the story. I still don't trust ANYONE's side of the story. I'll stay out of their bickering shit. Yes it's annoying when they involve my name in their arguments, but as long as I have my mental health under control, I'm going to ignore what I can. I don't know why this morning I just feel "Whatever" even though I've been so anxious and worried for the past few days because of them. This is the kind of mood that I want, the idgaf mood, no effect on my mental health, and I can do stuff normally. Maybe because I've realized that even my SIL still uses taqiyyah here and there in order to bring me "kembali ke pangkal jalan". So now I don't care anymore if she fights with my mom. Sure, my mom is the JustNoMIL, but I'm not gonna help my SIL either if she doesn't respect my choice.

[-] TimeElise 6 points 9 months ago

I kept seeing an adooorable fluffy oyen kitten for a few nights already. Nak adopt tapi takut it's someone's pet. No collar, was out late at night. Looks well fed (not skeleton-looking) and fur all cantik - no matted fur or brown spots. I'll just pspsps when I see it instead of taking it in then. :(

[-] cendawanita 2 points 9 months ago
[-] TimeElise 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I see if it's always out 24/7 or not or ask around the neighborhood if it's stray or not

[-] rakyat 1 points 9 months ago

If you give it some food or give it some pats it might just follow you home. “Eh the cat followed me back here on its own, what could I do?”

[-] TimeElise 1 points 9 months ago

This was what my husband wanted to do lol. "If it comes to my doorstep I'll take it in"

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[-] SheenTStars 1 points 9 months ago
[-] TimeElise 2 points 9 months ago

Didn't manage to take, it was night and dark

[-] Annoyed_Crabby 1 points 9 months ago

Could be a community cat tho, but still...

Culik!

[-] TimeElise 1 points 9 months ago

Next thing I know, there's a missing cat poster everywhere lel

[-] Annoyed_Crabby 5 points 9 months ago

Lemmy.world is updating to 0.18.1 soon, i wonder how it feel 🤔

It also lag like heck due to a surge of user

[-] monkeyballnutty 3 points 9 months ago

feels not that polished yet

[-] Annoyed_Crabby 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Yeah but dang, i like the UI, and no more buggy bug. They also give user without an icon a default one, so much neater. Too bad there's still no default icon for community though

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[-] seacat 5 points 9 months ago

Happy Sunday! Had daging korban soup and sleepy af now, but got housework to do. Side eyeing my sleeping, non-rent paying, non-chore doing cats 😒

[-] Naomikho 1 points 9 months ago

That's one of reasons I want to become a cat.

[-] seacat 2 points 9 months ago

To be reborn as a cat in a T2 household with lots of trees. The dream

[-] Naomikho 2 points 9 months ago
[-] Annoyed_Crabby 1 points 9 months ago

Ooo, won't it be tough if cook with soup?

[-] seacat 2 points 9 months ago

Pressure cooker, or cook low and slow for a long time :)

[-] Annoyed_Crabby 2 points 9 months ago

That makes sense 🙈

[-] UltimateUsermaim 1 points 9 months ago

Electric pressure cooker is a godsend. Tho I tak berani to use the manual one. Like a sensitive time bomb. Could just explode on you suddenly.

[-] seacat 1 points 9 months ago

Sameee I’m too chickenshit for it. I stopped using my mokapot after I heard it can explode cos it’s basically like a pressure cooker too.

[-] yong1996 4 points 9 months ago
[-] Naomikho 3 points 9 months ago

Twitter is basically a premium service now

[-] cendawanita 2 points 9 months ago

Someone joked twitter now defederated itself and that gave me an irl chuckle

[-] Tarlia 4 points 9 months ago

Privacy issues on Lemmy: https://raddle.me/f/lobby/155371/warning-lemmy-doesn-t-care-about-your-privacy-everything-is

I'm still reading up on it, but this is concerning if it's true.

[-] cendawanita 2 points 9 months ago

Oh yeah, it's worth repeated emphasis, both Lemmy and kbin have varying issues with security because they're either too little used so they never had to really think about it (L) or too new (k). Should add to sticky/sidebar until it resolves. For this instance, I suppose have to trust admins to rly delete posts.

[-] Tarlia 2 points 9 months ago

The consolation is that monyet.cc is a small local standalone instance who happens to be using Lemmy, and not completely dependent on one main site to exist. I don't think anyone would enjoy my deleted posts so far. They're all salah format.

[-] cendawanita 1 points 9 months ago

Hahaha but it's also a bit of a relief if your main is here and you need to make sure something stays deleted because at least the changes will federate out. If elsewhere coming in and on a more cincai instance, quite stress also....

[-] cendawanita 3 points 9 months ago

Still awake because I just got back from Indy and also am lmao at the latest twitter news: https://mastodon.social/@BNONews/110639971384940348

[-] cendawanita 1 points 9 months ago

Is there enough kakis for a kaki wayang comm tak?

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[-] imaginelizard 1 points 9 months ago
[-] 25thSkye 1 points 9 months ago

Has anyone checked how Reddit is doing? Is traffic as usual?

[-] Annoyed_Crabby 3 points 9 months ago

Should be as usual lah, there's a lot of people moving on from reddit but the site house millions of users.

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