[-] onoira@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

i either speak too loudly or too quietly. i overenunciate everything, and have a vaguely General American accent when i speak English, so if i'm too loud then people conflate me with an amerikkkan tourist and sometimes get violent with me (i'm not a turtle ilander). neurotypicals from the southern and midwest US accuse me of 'pretending i'm better than' them; native speakers of other languages i speak similarly get defensive because i usually adopt a 'standard' 'prestige' dialect. bonus: i'm femme-passing, so being loud irritates cismen.

on top of it all, people tell me i'm pretentious because i use bIg wOrD and speak directly without any of the timewasting niceties and pleasantries of 'normal' speech, and — being a language nerd — i am very selective with my word choice, i use very narrow definitions of words (i hated the concept of 'synonyms' in school), and i like to use obscure/archaic terms where i think they fill an unfulfilled niche in my vocabulary… i sometimes sound like a tortured poet. i have trouble understanding spoken language, i lose my words a lot, and i get into stuttering fits. people (read: bullies) consider these great opportunities to mock the 'snobby' way that i speak. if i get started on a topic, i find it hard to notice when to shut the fuck up.

when i'm upset, my voice betrays my emotions. if i'm trying to deëscalate a situation or engage in nonviolent communication then i get accused of being manipulative.

all of this compounds to frustrate people's worldviews, since they find it hard to believe i didn't have a formal education and grew up in poverty, or that i struggle with mental health and neurological issues. so i also get accused of being a liar. and a manipulator. a lot.

these days i force almost everyone i talk to to only ever speak to me via IM or email (hOw maNipuLaTivE and DEMANDING), and i just avoid associating with neurotypicals as much as i can. no, it doesn't make social functioning easier, but i don't think it can be any easier.

*shruggie*

[-] onoira@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 1 month ago

there's a bot that will do this for you over on lemmy.world. i think you'd like it better over there.

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appearing signed out (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

since the slow loading issues were resolved: using the default browser UI — every time i open dbzer0 in a new tab in Firefox — the page will appear as if i'm signed out.

i can fix this by hard refreshing, except on /posts. if i open a /post in a tab where i appear signed in, it loads correctly.

sometimes this happens on the subscribed feed page, where i seem signed out but i see someone else's subscriptions, but with my votes indicated. when i'm stuck like this, /unread_count is still polled for my account.

this doesn't happen to me on other instances.

[-] onoira@lemmy.dbzer0.com 31 points 3 months ago

All the time spent thinking how to solve a problem is also work.

try telling that to every manager i've ever had.

[-] onoira@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 4 months ago

my guess is it was trying to get you to help one of its friends or something.

that was my first guess, but it didn't seem like it was leading me anywhere.

i'm a little worried now.

I’d have had a good search around the area befriending crows can actually bring you some benifit like shiny gifts

when i was homeless, i shared my food with a crow. i got them to bring me coins by feeding them double portions when they brought monies.

or in some cases crow bodyguards as they actually recognise individuals as friends etc.

that's my current relationship to the corvids in town. a long time ago i rescued a magpie from two seagulls, and since then all the corvids no longer fly away when i come near them. the magpies even defended me from a seagull one day!

but they otherwise don't approach me, and we don't 'communicate'.

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submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by onoira@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

i was walking along some bushes when a bird flew out from a bush in front of my path into a grass clearing. it was a very small crow. it made two quiet, short, high-pitched peeps in rapid succession, hopping in circles. i tried to walk around it, but it kept blocking my path and making the exact same peeps at me.

i got back on the stone path, and it hopped up right next to me, and starting ripping up grass and throwing it over my feet. i chuckled, and it stopped, looked up at me, and… peeped again, before continuing to bury my feet in grass.

i continued walking and it followed right next to me till the end of the path before watching me walk away and then returning to its bush.

i didn't recognise this bird, or seen a bird do this to me or anyone else before. i'm on especially friendly terms with the corvids in my neighbourhood, but they don't normally approach me.

any ideas? have you seen something similar?

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submitted 4 months ago by onoira@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/privacy@lemmy.ml

Today EU governments will not adopt their position on the EU regulation on “combating child sexual abuse”, the so-called chat control regulation, as planned, which would have heralded the end of private messages and secure encryption. The Belgian Council presidency postponed the vote at short notice.

[-] onoira@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 5 months ago

my therapist: 'well, this little maneuver's gonna cost us 51 years'

[-] onoira@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 5 months ago

she's alluding to the fact that these characters — the 'soyjack' and 'gigachad' — are historically, and still actively are, alt-right charicatures. together with their friends, 'tradwife' and 'doomer (girl)': they represent misogynistic, racist, antisemitic, and white supremacist tropes.

[-] onoira@lemmy.dbzer0.com 27 points 5 months ago

if you're the first person from your instance to interact with a remote community, it takes a moment for it to sync.

also keep in mind that lemmy.world is too fucking big, so they're very slow to talk to.

[-] onoira@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 7 months ago

Per the March All Hands discussion […]

i guess from experience that this was neither 'all hands' nor a 'dicussion'. it was 'whoever['s logged in before office hours| doesn't want to enjoy their lunch] gets to look at boomer memes and dull graphs for 2 hours while listening to the latest round of edicts graciously handed down by the Board.'

if you missed it, and you're lucky, they recorded it. if you're very lucky: you get an email with the slide deck and talking points for what could've just been an email to begin with.

[-] onoira@lemmy.dbzer0.com 25 points 8 months ago

this assumes that:

  1. all workers are 'producing' anything.
  2. all workers are serving real needs.
  3. the difference between supply and demand is really so low that any dip in 'productivity' would harm anything more than an executive's RoI.
  4. that the threat of this financial 'harm' necessitates more work.

 

with the increase in 'productivity' over the last century, if we reduced our expectations, and stopped letting monopoly money run our entire society, and stopped burning surplus resources because it's 'unsold' or would drive down prices: we wouldn't need to work even 20% what is expected of us now.

[-] onoira@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 8 months ago

this assumes that:

  1. dependence is inevitable if Europe is not the most competitive.
  2. that economic competitiveness had anything to do with natural gas imports.
  3. that our economic system and its basic dynamics are unchangeable.
  4. that our needs are unchangeable.

 

the natural gas situation wouldn't have been avoided if Europe were more 'competitive'; neither would any other geopolitical situation. instead the EU should have — and is currently — diversifying its domestic energy sources. the EU could also work on energy coöperation and reducing energy usage.

interdependence works for everyone. independence is a destructive mindset.

[-] onoira@lemmy.dbzer0.com 35 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

How would this work? Do websites with rss feeds normally publish the url to that feed in some standard place?

feeds are usually advertised in the page header as below, with type set to either application/rss+xml or application/atom+xml.

<head>
  <link rel="alternate" type="application/rss+xml" title="Example Feed" href="https://example.com/feed/" />
</head>

Are there any third party extensions that do it?

i don't know about chrom[e|ium], but i use Awesome RSS for firefox.

[-] onoira@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 9 months ago

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