this post was submitted on 29 Dec 2024
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Gymrat shit has been going goodDown to my healthiest weight in a decade+
Noticing some real change around my tummy and face, and my legs are honestly looking pretty damn good and my hips are really getting defined. Feeling pretty good about that. Down about 11 pounds since 11/11.
Feel like I've gotten back to the maintenance phase where the muscle gains metabolic improvements take precedence and my activity level and diet make the fat loss easier now after the initial hard phase of "oh shit I haven't done this in years" getting back into the swing of things
negatives, self crit, alcoholism and nicotine addiction, mental health and relationships
Despite feeling pretty good about myself physically, December 2024 was easily my worst month in a year mentally. Relapsed on alcohol and cigarettes, had several ugly arguments with my POS dad, lost my temper several times to the point of injuring myself raging at inanimate objects that were fucking with me like my shitty car's trunk and hurt my hand punching it because the trunk wouldn't latch and it doesn't hold open anymore and after a rough day that was the straw that broke the camel's backGonna try making it through 2025 without buying cigarettes or booze but it's been a struggle
Feeling really burned out and low and lonely and frustrated
Need a career instead of a job. Need a new car. Need irl friends and a partner and physical affection from human beings instead of cats. Need to be kinder to myself mentally and rest and eat better instead of impulsively wanting to make drastic changes overnight. I'm gonna commit to reconnecting with IRL ppl and finishing my degree and finding better work and getting to a point where I at least feel okay about how I'm doing personally vs my circumstances. 2025 might be the year I finally get my shit together to an acceptable degree. It's so much work and I started in such a low place and it's fucking exhausting but I've at least hit the point again where I can't not put in the work now without it bothering me more than putting it off, so I'm building better habits and making progress
Want to get back into practicing and making music too,.a creative writing/game mod project, build a new PC, learn how to ice skate and play pickup/rec league hockey and go snowboarding and hiking/mountain climbing again
I feel simultaneously incredibly bleak about the immediate future and state of the world and better about my own life and prospects than I have in more than a decade and it's a strange feeling
I may be a weird queer mess but my legs are very strong and I have some real "not one step back" ass willpower lately
You already started improving so you might as well finish