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What does 'lock in' mean in this situation?
Yours faithfully,
a confused Brit.
Cowboy up.
Get your boot straps out the dirt.
Cryers don't get healthcare.
(Okay I'm running out of Americanisms)
It's telling someone to stop being emotional.
I'd say it's telling someone to focus on a task at hand
Yeah but if that task isn't something that someone's life depends on turn it's a pretty dick move.
Like "I need to lock in and finish this essay" sort of thing
You can ask for an extension.
Is there context here that I'm missing? I'm confused
Yeah an essay isn't an emergency. Telling someone they have to stop crying is physically and mentally harmful. So doing so without some on going reason they absolutely have to stop is a dick move.
Stiff upper lip old chap!
God, it's like none of you speak Brit.
Gen Z slang for saying "get it together and focus"
Ah ok, thanks.
Where I'm from a lock in is a pub illegally serving drinkers after time by locking the doors.
Lock ins were all night parties for kids when I was growing up. Parents in 80s USA, wow.
Could be both..?
Undoubtedly, apologies if it was understood that I spoke as the sole arbiter of lock ins.
Usually in churches right?
libraries sometimes too. basically an overnight in a non-residential space?
My parents went to them at skating rinks where they would take their skates off and dance on the rink. They called them sock hops.
Ok... So maybe this is a dumb question, but is it helpful to hear that when you're having a hard time?
i think it could be, depending upon circumstances. likewise, i think it could also be actively harmful (depending upon circumstances).
And personality type.
God you guys sure like to make assumptions. This place is already shaping up to be like Reddit🤣🤣🤣🤣
"It depends on your circumstances"
What assumptions???
Is that not how discussions work?
Discuss discussions, not straight up speculation
It depends.
It could mean just try to put bad thoughts aside until the workday/workweek ends and really try to get intentional tunnel vision. In a corporate world of hell capitalism, I get it. Not a great sign that we have slang for it, but I get it.
It could also mean emotionally disconnect for the next while and just do what's mechanically important (work, often gym). This one's worse and it's what you're thinking of.
It's been used a fair bit around me.
Steady on.
Buck up. Suck it up. Maintain an even strain. I get it.
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Traditionally, to be "locked in" on something would mean to be locked in on your target, goal, etc.
Telling someone to lock in or "lock it in" is kind of like a nice way of saying "get your shit together" or "focus up". I hear it in sports/ gaming lingo.
So it's something like 'man up'. Ok, I can understand that.
There are negative connotations around "man up"
"Lock in" it just a fancy way to say, focus. But with a "we've got this" vibe to it.
I see. So just press
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ctrl+wI do believe if someone told me to "lock in" while I was on a video game I would fall over laughing.
I mean that's the point kind of haha. I know some people use the lingo unironically, but if I tell my homies I'm bout to lock in, clutch up, and secure the dub, I don't want them to take me seriously, lmao.
When my buddies are playing, and we're being loud, telling jokes, and generally goofing around instead of paying attention, one of the common things we'll jokingly say when the laughter dies down is "alright alright alright, focus up guys, let's focus up".
Oh good. I've met people in games who take them way too seriously.
I see it as Stay Focused
It's akin to "get over it" in this context.
I say less get over it and more "you got this"
IMO same thing, it's all just dismissing the other person's feelings and thoughts.
How is "you got this" dismissive? It's literally letting the person know that you support them and they can handle the challenge or whatever, did someone use "you got this" sarcastically with you when you were a child?
No, how is it not? Even reading it verbatim word for word. YOU got this, where is the we in that? And again, it's just completely dismissive, ignores any and all problems with 3 meaningless words.
On a scale of 1 to 10 how autistic would you say you are?
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