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[-] NONE_dc@lemmy.world 30 points 2 weeks ago

When I say "I hate small talk" I actually mean "please Shut up, Im really anxious and I don't know what to respond to you other that nodding and «Thats crazy»"

[-] ameancow@lemmy.world -1 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

When most people say "I hate small talk" it's because they don't socialize broadly and don't really "get" how it works, and how it's often just a way of expressing how you feel at that moment, and when two people are making small-talk, it's less about the information being shared and more about the tone, intimacy and connection, like sharing space and being open with passing thoughts.

People in a healthy relationship will "small talk" for hours about the weather or pizza prices, and then launch into a deep debate about post-modernism and expressionist art, which will dissolve as one or both get distracted by the pizza finally arriving.

When someone says "I hate small talk" it just reveals they have no understanding how human connection actually works and think two people talking has to play out narratively like media, television shows or movies.

[-] CosmicTurtle0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 2 weeks ago

Small talk is the human equivalent to the initialization/handshake phase of the TCP protocol.

It establishes the connection, introduces the speakers, validates the presence of the other, and then allows data transmission to take place.

Unlike computers, we humans require years of practice to get it correct because there isn't one set standard.

[-] NONE_dc@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago

Pal you actually sounds like someone who really HATES small talk, Jesus...

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