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I really like boobs too. But I don't get distracted by them in normal non-sexual situations. The issue isn't being attracted, it is the gaze.
I think you're kind of being dismissive of what that commenter is saying. It is really uncomfortable being looked at like that.
Define "gaze." I'm sure you've taken a gander at someone (any gender) you find attractive before, does that count as "gaze?" There's a difference between staring, looking, glancing, "checking someone out," etc. "Staring" is of course a problem, but it's always a problem not just when there's boobs involved, typically met with a "the fuck you looking at?" when men stare at other men, nobody likes that. I don't "stare," but I 100% have checked people out before, as has that commenter I'm sure, and you too, it's natural.
I occasionally wear 4" inseam work out shorts (they have a liner, but don't leave too much to the imagination iykwim) and I've 100% "caught" (idc but I've seen it) multiple women "gazing" (checking me out) at my shorts when I do, this isn't a thing only men do, it's a universal experience. We can pretend only men feel physical attraction and look at it, but we both know it isn't true.
I'm not minimizing that person's experience, I just think it speaks to something else more than it speaks to whether or not being attracted to something, or even checking people out, is bad, exclusive to men, a problem, etc. Don't stare but checking people out is normal.