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Imagine being afraid of the ‘friend zone’ (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Lussy@hexbear.net to c/chapotraphouse@hexbear.net

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Oh no, my miserable life that’s devoid of any connection and anyone altogether otherwise *at least contains a friend.

What the fuck man, is this a real concern average people have that I’m way too fucking alienated to understand

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[-] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 33 points 1 year ago

It's because they hate women and see them only as something to boost their social status. Like a house or car.

If they are friends with a woman with no prospect of fucking, in their minds that makes them of lesser status.

It's all misogynist pop psychology bullshit.

[-] Lussy@hexbear.net 19 points 1 year ago

Yeah, agreed about the misogyny.

Also, as I think about it, what if it partially stems from people politely rejecting others, after a date, by telling them they just want to be friends when they don’t actually mean it?

I’ve had that shit happen to before and it kind of blows. Went on a date with a cool, attractive girl in a new city where I didn’t know anyone, and she let me know afterwards that she thinks I’m cool but just wants to be friends. I was like ‘fuck yeah, I don’t give a shit’ but we never spoke after that :( Don’t say it if you don’t mean it, but then again maybe I should have put in more effort into staying in contact with her.

[-] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 21 points 1 year ago

What if it partially stems from people politely rejecting others, after a date, by telling them they just want to be friends when they don’t actually mean it?

Unfortunately, that can happen, but keep in mind that rejecting men is often very dangerous for women and they have to be very careful not to seem unfriendly. It's probably not personal or intentionally cruel, but rather an automatic defense mechanism.