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this post was submitted on 16 Sep 2023
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is 90k a year with huge debt and no savings a lot of money?
If they’re in the US and didn’t grow up with “comfortable” parents, probably not. I’m in the same boat (edit: my partner and I make this combined) and it gets real tiring seeing people making equivalent money and acting like I’m irresponsible just because I’m broke. You know why I’m in so much fucking debt? Because my parents couldn’t support me through college like theirs could. I had to pay full room and board, cover my own food, buy my own cars without a co-signer, pay for all the insurance, and be working full time to do all that on top of school, which I paid for with loans once the grants ran out. And that school is how I make as much as I do.
Some dude had the gall to ask my why I didn’t have a savings right after he talked about his parents setting him up with a credit card at the age of 15 to start building his credit passively. And talking about how his parents used to pay for his plane tickets to go work over the summer at school and all he’d need to do was work “for beer money” but they usually ended up paying off his credit card for him.
These people don’t know what it’s like to couch surf with an infant or to be denied unemployment because your boss lied about why they fired you. By the way, are these pretentious fucks aware that filing a “false” unemployment claim can cause your WIC and food stamps to get “audited” and potentially lose you a month of benefits even if it’s unfounded? Because I fucking know that. But if I even shared with most of my coworkers that I’ve been on food stamps they’d think I was lazy or something.
To me, yes but I grew up poor
edit... no, I shouldn't overshare.. i told my partner I would stop oversharing on here.
who cares im not going to a therapist whos gonna tell me some bullshit and i got no one else might as well be here
edit. i cant do it.
i can watch me
i hate everyone and my address is 525 Chungus St Lee, Massachusetts 01505
haha ok ok ill go!
my partner got job that pays good money but the money goes POOF immediately because we have to take care of our siblings and other family, and my fiance sends money back to cuba. im sure we will be middle class eventually but its harder if you have a soul. also we finally have enough for my dream wedding/ honeymoon (4000$) so thats amazing. it feels so weird not being broke as fuck. its amazing, my hair is growing, my skin is clear, my panic attacks are mostly gone. my parents should have been middle class but they burned money and also stole a lot of money from family for years. so growing up we would have money for trips to my dads country one year and then not have enough for new clothes the next.
I definitely get the bit about paying for family. I supported my mom for about 5 years and my partner supported theirs for over a decade. It’s good to hear you’re feeling less stressed, though.
yeah im very grateful, and it feels good to help family.
you don't have to share all the time but maybe now and then it's okay. i don't really understand the self-censorship though, i dont even think about oversharing most of the time.
my closest friends, brothers really, went from poverty, poor town, lots of horrible personal tragedies, single mother, didn't even finish 9th grade to making well over six figures. finally they can get their rotting teeth looked at, eat well, do fun things, buy whatever they wanted from back in the day or whatever they want now. don't feel bad about coming up just dont punch down and be a piece of shit as you do it. im happy for you. be careful of lifestyle inflation, i sure eat out a lot more now that i can afford it.
the more personal info I share the more personal the insults of the people who comb through my post history lol. who knows maybe someone will say my other perspectives are invalid now. ill get over myself lol. its not that serious. and god yes i got my wisdom teeth out!!!!! amazing. and yes I was eating out way too much but ive been cooking and ive gotten pretty good at it. im still thrifting and being frugal. my biggest indulgence is my skincare routine and getting my hair done regularly (i look amazzzzzzzing). but wasting too much money gives me a rash lol.
yep
No it is not, this is genuine crab in a bucket mentality. That person making 90k maybe gets to go on vacation sometimes? That's not wealthy
it's nine times what i make
"crabs in a bucket" only ever comes out the mouth of people near the rim
Alright I changed my mind, you're right
then yes I know a nice person with money.
no