How much contact is too much contact? (self.malaysian_dating)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by dcx to c/malaysian_dating

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I've actually been wondering about this for a while. Realised this is a really good place to ask!

So when you're dating someone in Malaysia. How often do you like to check in with your partner? How much is too much or too little?

I'm a pretty independent nyet so once every couple days feels about right for me. And maybe share some funny link if it pops up. Any more and I start feeling this slightly smothering obligation hanging in the air. But I've heard a pretty wide range on what people think is normal / makes them insecure. Like some couples wish each other good morning and good night every single day kinda thing. (But also some couples wear 100% matching outfits when they go out. Pls just let me die instead)

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[-] dcx 1 points 1 year ago

I just wrote a reply elsewhere, I think I clarified my position a bit for myself lol

Hmmm. After bouncing this around in this post, I’ve concluded that I don’t mind pings throughout the day actually. It’s more about the expectation of being responsive at specific times every day, and always having to check my phone. I’d be totes okay with messaging if they were okay with me going dead for blocks of hours or a day or two here and there.

[-] hyattpotter 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

wow.. I'm getting a clearer idea of what your last relo may be like..

I don't think a functional adult relo could work like that long term with the constant need to respond tho. That sort of expectation was a phase that I did go through in high school. The feeling of knowing someone is just WAITING and is getting more upset with each minute that passes is guilt I don't need atm. Like I feel bad, but not bad enough to do anything about it.. Especially if the text is just "what's your lunch?" ugh.

We gots things to do when we're at work, and when we're not, we just really do the minimum needed to not get a stroke (some of us do push this to the limits though) while making the most out of our personal time.

I think I should lay off the petrol on you. I don't want to destroy our excellent professional relationship as it is. 😂

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