I suspect that this is less about using language with which one's audience is familiar to convey a message accurately, and more about making the message sound obviously right and affirming the smartness of the audience because Computer Words.

Dont think they even need google scholar, I think various progressive groups have also talked about how to do a proper apology for a while.

But both are not first principles.

Jfc thank you

I totally agree

bro apologizing is like, a social API that the neural networks in our brains use to update status points

It's funny that using computing terms like this actually demonstrates a lack of understanding of the computing term in question. API stands for Application Programming Interface - you'd think that if you stuck the word Social in front of that it would be easy to see that the Application Programming part means nothing anymore. It's exactly like an API except it's not for applications, it's not programming, and it's barely an interface.