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How do I stop a crush from developing further? (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by throwawaysalami@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I think I got a crush on my dance instructor. Which fucking sucks for all the obvious reasons. Normally I wouldn't be so worried. BUT I JUST HAD A GODDAMN ROMANTIC DREAM ABOUT HER. Seriously I just woke up from a dream about her confessing her love to me and me eagerly doing the same about her.

So how do you stop a crush from developing further? Because this is a well from which only disappointment may be drawn.

Edit: I am single btw.

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[-] Resol@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago

Come out of the closet as asexual and aromantic and the issue will disappear like a puff of smoke.

NOTE: this strategy could have negative consequences if you live in a country that doesn't recognize LGBT rights.

[-] Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 8 points 9 months ago

Would asexuals really have that bad of a time in a country that is not that supportive of LGBT? I don't think not wanting to have sex is seen as bad by people who dislike LGBT?

[-] Resol@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

In my country especially (it's Morocco), so many people think it's a bad idea to not get married and not have children (which requires sex anyway) simply because it's so engrained in our society to do that. Blame the state religion.

Idk why, but when I told my dad I wanna be celibate, he called me an atheist, which I'm not.

Also, asexualism is technically a part of LGBT, just in a very secondary manner. If people know about the full picture, they'll start threatening you.

[-] Silentiea@lemm.ee 2 points 9 months ago

Any religious argument against LGBT folks works just as well on Ace folks. (Which is to say they don't, but the people making the arguments think they do)

[-] Skanky@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago

I first read that as "asexual and aromatic" and I was like, ... Well, i guess if you don't like sex and you smell like garlic....

[-] Resol@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

Even my keyboard thought I meant to say "aromatic"

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