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[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 4 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I see your point about people who data/would date enbies being pan (edit: wrong word), and that makes sense to me. My only thought was that (many) lesbians date enbies, and that feels the same to me (just depending on how you identify yourself, but the direction of your attraction is the same as a straight guy).

There are straight guys who have hookups with cis guys shrug-outta-hecks that seems like even more cognitive dissonance to me. but if their partners are fine with it I don't really care how someone wants to label their sexuality. I know a lesbian who's in a long term relationship with a guy. yaknow, whatever.

Obviously if their partner isn't okay with it then yea, let's kick him in the balls though.

[-] Infamousblt@hexbear.net 2 points 7 months ago

I do, because it matters. To say you're straight but then be attracted to or date or hook up with people that fall outside of the gender binary that literally defines said straight identity is just another way to erase the identities of folks who don't conform to the gender binary. The only reason straight folks who do shit like that identify as straight are because they're too cowardly and / or hopped up on homophobia to admit maybe they aren't as straight as they think. It's highly highly problematic and fuck every single person who does this.

[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 4 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Maybe I'm doing too much talking (and probably not doing a good job at explaining myself anyway). How would you label a guy who is attracted to (some) women and (some) enbies?

[-] Infamousblt@hexbear.net 2 points 7 months ago

No basically everything you said I agree with. Except that someone who is attracted to some women and some enbies is NOT STRAIGHT. That's queer or pan or bi or whatever label you want. But it's not straight. That's my sticking point. "Straights" who are straight in name only are erasing the identities of everyone else because they're too cowardly to admit they aren't straight. It's awful and I hate it.