Oh the joys of narcissists. I luckily missed the marriage bit, but a 5 year relationship was a rough one to end. There is no discussion with narcissists, just endless frustration at their instinctual responses to protect themselves. Remember, they're the ones missing out on so much from life because they're driven by a deep insecurity we can barely imagine!

Keep going, there will be an end and a time when you can finally move on!