I think you're right, and maybe add a modification. As a fellow engineer, I'll suggest there's a third option that's more realistic when it comes to knowledgeable and lay people having a discussion:

• as mentioned in the meme, scientists can and do learn stuff that improves overall understanding.
• the quest for improved understanding is usually sparked by a strange or unique observation, sometimes by scientists, sometimes by the much larger population of regular folks
• Provided there is good intent and respect from both parties, I believe it's critically important that people who have observed something unique be able to discuss it somehow with people who have particular skill related to that phenomena

What seems to be missing out of a lot of these misinformation tikTube fights is precisely that fundamental lack of respect. I've observed it's very easy to destabilize a calm discussion with small amounts of inconsiderate speech by people within or outside the discussion. Sometimes it seems purposeful, but the result is a much slowed ability to communicate. That's bad for us all.