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Thank you for your honesty and your story. I can agree that's one of the ways I got into it, I viewed myself as a catch and women had been conditioned to not want me, such a good person. The whole thing too, it's their fault for not realizing that it should be a good person instead of a hot person.
Of course it never crossed my mind back then that they were with good people, and maybe I wasn't as great as I thought I was. I'm still pudgy and I still am bit too sarcastic, but that doesn't matter, my horrid views on women and myself did enough damage back then.
Also all great advice. "Nice" isn't a personality. Nice is the bare minimum. You need to be a person, hobbies and geeky things are great. My wife and I started chatting because I talked about music I liked and lord of the rings lore. You are expected to be nice, it's a personality trait, one part of your personality.