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What did you have to learn the hard way?
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this post was submitted on 03 Aug 2024
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Before you share unasked for information with someone consider these two points:
If the answer is No to either one or both, keep to yourself.
In related news: Sometimes people want to vent, sometimes they want solutions. If you don’t know which one is needed it’s okay to ask!
There's actually a 3 question test for this.
it was explained to me one time as W.A.I.T
Why
Am
I
Talking
This is all great advice that unfortunately I will not be able to take.
You forgot number 4:
Don't speak just to speak, speak for a purpose.
That's sensible advice - often, sharing the info sounds like "I assume that you're an ignorant, so let me enlighten you little thing". And/or fails to take into account relevant, but unmentioned details.
However, when discussing in public (like here), and in more general grounds, there's a complicating factor - the audience. Often what you say might not be useful to the person whom you're replying to, but it might still be for someone else.
Regarding the venting sometimes people don't want a solution they just want to vent.
That's the point.
I feel called out D: