If someone pulled a prank on you while you were away for a while, and took your refrigerator door and swapped the hinges and door handle sides, would you even notice? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 months ago by over_clox@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Would you be confused? Would you be mad? Would you even care?

LOL, I'd never do this, but it seems harmless silly enough...

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[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee -4 points 2 months ago

It’s harmless if you tell them.

If you don’t tell them, it’s called gaslighting and it’s very harmful.

[-] Chozo@fedia.io 2 points 2 months ago

That's not what gaslighting is.

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 0 points 2 months ago

Yes it is. You change something about a person's environment, and when they ask "did you change that thing?" you deny it. If you never reveal that you actually changed the thing, it's called gaslighting.

It's named after a movie in which one character did this to another character with the intensity of gas lamps on the wall, with the intention of making her doubt her own perceptions.

[-] Chozo@fedia.io 0 points 2 months ago

If you don’t tell them

is different from

when they ask "did you change that thing?" you deny it

I'm just being a stickler for the active vs passive method of letting the victim question their sanity.

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 0 points 2 months ago

So you do know that it’s gaslighting

[-] over_clox@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I'd tell them.. eventually. And I'd fully reverse the changes. But I'm not gonna do any of that.

Until I have to defrost the freezer... 🤔

Nah, I'm too lazy for all that.

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 2 points 2 months ago

As long as you admit you changed it, then it's just a prank. If you never admit it, then it's gaslighting.

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