So, me, (22F), my fiancée Aiko (monogamous but supports me, 23F) and my boyfriend Will (23NB but he/they pronouns) are all in an open relationship. Will is also dating this guy Dave (26M) for 2 months, while we have been dating for like 4 months. We are seeing how it goes, but I have one problem.

While I get that Dave is new to him and all that, they always sleep over, play video games, etc. and Will never invites me to do that stuff with him, only Dave and Will invite each other. It's a good thing I have Aiko to do that stuff with, but I mean, come on. I wanna spend time with Will too.

And I've even told him that and how I don't like how he leaves me on "delivered" or "seen" for hours, and he just says "Oh, sorry!" or "I'm just busy" or "I'm just depressed", so then I don't bring it up again because he has a reason to do so and I feel petty.

Here's the thing: He's usually doing this, and he doesn't do this often to Dave, just me. He always spams Dave and freaks out when he doesn't respond, and while Will likes me, he couldn't care less if I responded to him or not.

He says because Dave has been treating him badly, that he's done with men, but he clearly likes men more or at least Dave more than me.

So, for a while, I (22F) only devoted (romantically) time and attention to Aiko (23F), my fiancée, as I have been dating her since I was 18 and I was monogamous for so long as I hadn't met the right one. When I came to the USA and started to live with my parents near my friend Beth, I met this guy she knew since high school, Will, and we really clicked.

Will (23NB, [he/they so you don't think I'm gendering him wrong]) is very hung up on this guy. We have been dating for like almost 4 months while he has been dating this new guy, Dave (26M), for about 2. They have sleepovers together, play video games, and all that stuff, but when I ask if he wants to sleep over or hang out, he will once in a blue moon. usually he barely answers my texts and is busy with Dave. He especially has been spending more attention on him due to Dave's depression and his failure to respond to his text messages, making him cry so he's been worried about him.

I get that, but even when he's not worried and even when it's been a while since they started dating, even when we started dating and stopped being just friends, he stopped responding. I tried texting him and he was like "Oh, I'm sorry" and continued.

has anyone else been in the same boat?

I’ve been dating this amazing women for a few months then recently got into a relationship a few weeks ago, but she’s more sensitive than I am. I’m more laid back and don’t let things bother me and love dark offensive humor for shock value…she’s the opposite doesn’t like certain things said and say gets offended if I jokingly flip off (which I do to people I’m close to as a sogn of ironic love) for example. However our core beliefs like politics, religion, and personalities align for most part.

I’m not sure if this type of incompatibility is bad though and worried things might not last or how I can keep it. She did say she’s fine with me still being my full self around others I’m friends with just not her. Am I walking on egg shells?

It's been going on for a couple years and she fits really well in our relationship but last weekend she confessed to us that she slept with Steve Harwell at a carnival in 2021 and my wife and I can't get past it.

What would y'all do in this situation?

I am feeling insecure and scared right now. My husband of ten years and I have been separated for about a year. Things are up and down but we've been seeing a therapist. He has a history of aggressive driving. Today, he was driving fast, then passed a slower car in a no passing zone going 30 MPH over the speed limit. It scared me. When I said something, his initial response was "either I passed them or I was going to be angry behind them the entire time", then later that he should have warned me first. No apology.

I felt uncomfortable so I asked him to pull over. He did, and I explained I felt unsafe so I'd be more comfortable if I drove for awhile. He refused and told me "I just don't care about your safety or comfort right now", then explained it was because he was angry with me about something that happened earlier. What. The. Fuck. He's angry so my safety isn't important? Fuck you, dude.

I told him I'd get a ride to my house and left the car. He got angry and called me ridiculous and melodramatic, ordering me to get back in the car like I was a child. I started to walk away so he yelled insults at me and ridiculed me. I was so embarrassed. My friend picked me up and took me home.

My car is still at his house. He texts me later, telling we he'll move it to a nearby street and tape the key to the wheel well. I ask him not to and he ignores me. Then he says that he's thinking he might stop therapy after "my behavior". That's right: this motherfucker is mad at ME for walking away when he said he didn't care about my safety after I tell him his driving is scaring me. He didn't apologize for any of this beyond "I'm sorry things went the way they did", then began texting about his hurt feelings.

I was writing this to ask for a sanity check but after reading it I know I'm now getting a divorce. Fuck.

I love my partner more than anything else in this world. We generally have a great relationship but, I've been working 60+ hour weeks for a few months and it has started taking a toll on our relationship. I'm on the "high functioning" end of the autism spectrum and I'm also ADHD, so my work schedule has been particularly exhausting with my limited social/executive function batteries. I'm insanely burnt out. My SO is very supportive, mostly.. He's been taking a break from low wage jobs and working primarily at the house, and he just started a new freelance style job that amounts to a gig every few weeks for now. This arrangement has been working well for us, in terms of having things covered, but he wants to work more to bring in more income. He works hard and I see a lot of value in everything he does. No issues there. But, he doesn't leave the house much, so he has an abundance of social energy and is significantly lacking in getting enough socializing/ connection. He talks to his mom everyday and me. We're each other's best friends, lovers, and support system.

The problem we're having now is that I'm so burnt out when I'm home that I just want to melt into the couch and completely turn off. He wants to talk constantly because he's been missing me and has a bunch of pent up social energy. When I explain that I really don't want to talk a lot, he reacts like I'm telling him I don't want to talk to HIM at all, and I don't find anything he says interesting. I've tried to clarify, repeatedly, that I want to be around him, but sit quietly and play a game. It's not about him. I'm just too exhausted to be able to focus on what I'm doing (gaming, reading, whatever), focus on what he's saying, and focus on the video he's watching that is usually what he's talking about. I'm being asked to concentrate on three things at once and stay 100% engaged in small talk with him the whole time.. While I'm completely out of mental energy. I explain that I'm exhausted over and over again, as nicely as possible, only to be met with a negative response every time.

On top of this, he does a few things, constantly, that actually annoy me to no end. His idea of organization is hiding things where no one (including him) would think to look for that thing, in a different spot every time, and he leaves shoes/clothes/boxes/etc in the middle of open floors/walkways. I'm CONSTANTLY look for stuff and tripping/stepping on stuff. My ADHD/Autism is already a constant struggle, and his behaviors multiply those struggles. I'm always exercising patience. I look at those things as quirks of the man that I love. Small prices to pay to live with the love of my life. But, when I'm super burnt out I get very irritable and I'm not as patient.

That stuff, plus him refusing to let me sit in peace has been really getting to me and I finally blew up on him. I was definitely an asshole, but I feel like I was driven to a breaking point and he refuses to hear my perspective. His response has been "just go somewhere else and don't fucking talk to me then". He thinks I don't find him interesting at all and I'm not fostering any romance or connection in the relationship. I'm always trying to be sweet/cuddle and he rejects those attempts 90% of the time. He's threatening to leave me if I don't stop being moody. Basically, he's saying "tough shit, this is how I am, take it or leave it". I feel like I'm not allowed to recover from burn out around him, which sucks because, with how busy my work has been, I also really miss him and want to be around him. Why can't we just relax without all the small talk!?! I'm in between a rock and a hard place and he refuses to budge. I feel like I'm losing him and I don't know what to do.

Aside from these (IMO, totally normal) relationship issues, I genuinely think he's the most beautiful, intelligent, and generally amazing person I know. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. My plan is to establish some strong boundaries with my boss. Working 60+ hours a week for months on end is killing my relationship and putting too much strain on my personal life/ responsibilities. I'm willing to sacrifice anything for my relationship with my partner, but his reaction to how much I've been going through, and the way he's threatening to leave me after a few difficult months has me questioning if he feels the same.

On top of all of this, my dog died about a month ago. I had her for 13 years, since she was 6 weeks old. Losing her has been one of the hardest things I've ever gone through. I've been extremely emotional. Crying multiple times a week, sometimes multiple times a day, over her. Crying at random bits of world news, songs, parts of shows/movies. I'm a mess, emotionally, which has definitely amplified the burn-out irritability. I'm at the end of my rope, my partner has seemingly ran out of patience with me and I don't know what to do. I really need some external perspectives and thoughtful advice.

I left for a 5 day work trip today and we argued in the car the whole way to the airport. Posting this in between connecting flights, so I may not respond for awhile.

So I saw a post on this girl having trouble with her bf and it reminded me of me. I (19NB) am having trouble with my girlfriend (18F). I dated her a while ago but had trouble with my ex who I still thought about I believe, so I stopped liking her. Now we are together but with problems because apparently I’m in the wrong for wanting to call my best friend and see what he’s up to

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so i'm polyamorous. i'm 15 years old and a girl. i go by "jessica" on here, which obviously isn't my real name but its what you can call me on this account. at a therapy group center, i met this other polyamorous dude "avery" (m16). at first, i was 13 and didn't know he was polyamorous, so when we connected really fast and he mentioned his girlfriend all of a sudden, i was sad but gave up and just wanted to be his friend.

our therapist, "miss alex" (all fake names so they are in quotes) left as she was having a baby, then got another job or decided to be a stay-at-home mom, i forgot which. avery left the group a while before.

one time, i was in the waiting room and i saw him with a group of other teens, but i decided not to say anything. im faceblind and did not know whether that was him or not.

well, some time after, i was sitting pretty close but not right next to him, and i could clearly see that was the avery i knew. he recognized me and we finally exchanged social media usernames.

we became close. here's the thing: i found out he was polyamorous but he had a boyfriend, "david" (m16). he asked me if i wanted to, and i said yeah, and he said he would check in with david and finally tell him he was polyamorous. david supported him but wanted to be monogamous.

well, a month or two ago, they broke up. about 3 weeks ago, avery confessed to me finally when i joined his group again, and i realized i was so sad about him and david being together but happy for them because i was jealous and wanted to be the one for him.

now we are together. sometimes, he's busy with other things or just reads the messages and doesn't respond. sometimes, i get scared i text too much since i've been insulted and had mean things said to me from that, but the rational part of my brain says i've known him for like 3 years and for over a year fully, and he would not do that. he's always been respectful and loving even as a friend.

but i have an anxious attachment i'm trying to work on. my attachments are different depending on the partner and i for some reason always am more "secure" around girls and more "anxious" around boys, though i used to be avoidant.

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So basically I understand that dating a black woman is different than a white woman. She mentioned she feels comfortable when someone is open to learn and takes initiative to learn the societal and cultural things that affect her as a black woman. I don’t know what this means. And the take initiative part confuses me. And I’m not sure how to go about it I’m very open minded to learn but should I probe with questions or more so reading about it myself?

I’d like this relationship to go somewhere (so far had 4 dates) but her telling me that felt deep and I want to make sure I take right steps

Towards the beginning of the school year I was a lesbian, and now I'm a guy. Anyway, when I asked her out, Jess said she'd love to get to know me first, and asked me out after a week or so of "talking". Then, I found out she never even liked me and just didn't wanna feel bad for saying no, then claimed she was aroace. Someone online, however, said she probably just lied to get out of the relationship because she also never flirted with me but said she would kiss and sleep with boys. She then said she was straight and started dating a guy about a week later.

She asked me to be her English partner for an assignment recently just because I was the only one she knew in our English class. Sometimes she smiles and waves and says we're friends. Other times, she doesn't even bother getting to know me, barely talks, and says we're acquaintances. I also tried to start conversations with her and she just abruptly ends it and doesn't add anything so the conversation is really one-sided.

My mom thinks she wants to be left alone but then sometimes she acts like she likes me and wants to be my friend. We're not close enough where I can just ask her "What do you think of me?" she'd probably think that was weird and might lie to not hurt my feelings.

I feel like too much time will end up with us being like brothers, and too little time will end up with the relationship being forced. I get a warm feeling every time my crush(?) calls me, so I may like him, but IDK. He said sure, maybe if we get to know each other more he'd date me, and I agreed. But how long into the relationship before I consider dating him?

Hi, transmasc teen here. I have had a past with the social worker at my high school refusing to use the correct name and pronouns because I have to come out to my family if I do so. I don't wanna have to come out to my family, because even the most supportive members are anti-Testosterone. I am pro-Testosterone. They also say I will always have boobs and a vagina even if I get the surgeries because that's how I was born, and that I'm just a confused girl, when I know in my heart I am Anthony the sure and secure guy.

I haven't had a session with her in a while, so I don't know if she will use Anthony and he/him in private, but she won't let other teachers know that's what I would like to be called and calls me my birth name and uses she/her pronouns, but "feels bad". IDK if this is some law or what. I'll give her the benefit of the doubt and say maybe she just can't lose her job.

I don't know where to begin, so I'm just going to put words on 'paper'

I'm 33 and got out of a serious relationship ~6 months ago.

I'm looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with, and recently met someone that is a perfect fit for me on paper in so many ways, however there is a thought or feeling I just can't escape. I feel there is a lack of chemistry/attraction.

My new potential partner and I have been seeing each other for about a month, and have spent many days and nights together. She is objectively good looking and anyone would be lucky to have her multiple of my friends have said wow she's really pretty when they've met her however I don't feel the chemistry/attraction and I think I know where it comes from.

My ex was extremely feminine and we had insane chemistry from the start, the new potential partner I'm dating isn't feminine and is quite masculine in physical and behavioral ways and I think that's a turn off for me. I didn't even realize femininity mattered this much to me.

I feel insane for thinking of breaking things off with an objectively attractive, successful women who's logistics fit so well with mine it's honestly like finding a needle in a haystacks.

I feel stuck constantly fighting questions like:

• Am I just full of shit and looking for a unicorn that doesn't exist?
• Should I listen to my heart and feelings and let go of this because - it doesn't feel right?
• I'm getting old and want to settle down, should I priorities logistics and accept good enough?
• Am I just overly picky? Can I afford to be this picky?

My heart is telling me one thing, my head another. Help

Hi, so me (29NB) and my partner (23F) of almost 3 years have realized that our goals and long term plans are incompatible and that we can't stay together (not what I am here for, so no need to get into it) the thing is that we love eachother and get along great, and even after realizing that we are breaking up, we both still want to be friends. My question is, how? How to turn a relationship with plenty of sex and love into a platonic friendship without ending up emotionally stuck on each-other or having "slip-ups"?

At first I though that maybe starting with like 3 months of no contact can help make a clean slate to return to and start a new friendship on, but after discussion it I think that we still need eachothers' support as friends and it would be quite hard for us to just cut contact.

I had another idea of slowely banning romantic elements until the relationship goes platonic, maybe something like every week ban a new element, first can be saying "I love you" or terms of endearment, second could be sleeping over (we don't live together), third could be sex, etc, until we are essentially friends. But is this a terrible idea that will just leave us hung up on eachother?

Anyone with experience on how to turn mutual romantic love into a platonic love/friendship?

EDIT: I've been terribly unclear. We both know she needs counseling. How do I find a counselor? I have never in life even started to search. Also, I'm almost certain our insurance won't cover it. Got so solid advice on a DIY plan. Anyone add to that?

Said I'd never date a jealous woman, married her anyway, eyes wide open. Only real issue, everything else about our relationship outweighs it. But fuck me, it's like a drunk beating his wife and crying he didn't mean to, won't ever do it again. I can be minding my own business and take an ass beating at any moment.

I cannot overstate how bad this is. My PC is in the living room on a 40" TV. Browser pics automatically expand (Imagus extension). I have to be careful to not touch anything with a pretty woman in it. If I switch screens while she's looking, I'm guilty of hiding something.

She goes through my phone, I find apps I never opened. She's checking FB, which I don't touch, only Messenger for Marketplace replies. She's checking my email.

Monster fight last night where she produced a phone pic of my screen with a woman's name and asked why I replied. I didn't. My email address was shown as which account I would be replying from. Whole screen shot: woman's name and my email. Searched all: $womans_name right in front of her. Nada.

Had a recruiter almost score me a sweet job. Wife hated her guts because she's cute and sounded perky. Y'all. The recruiter was in NYC, we're in NW Florida.

I have to lock my PC to take a shit. She would birth live kittens if she saw this post, thinks you people are personal friends, like FB. "These people are strangers, don't even know what fucking country they live in."

She's asked our friends if that's normal. Now I look like a controlling asshole who's hiding something. I have never done this with another partner and have told her that many times.

We've been through this shit three dozen times, and every, single, fucking, time I've proved to her what was up, nothing, she's crying and apologizing, rinse and repeat.

We're 54 BTW, not exactly teenagers.

Anyway, she comes to me today and says she might have a problem and what should she do about it. Fuck I know! Told her to stay the fuck away from me the rest of the day, don't even want to look at her.

How would you reply?

Basically I started dating my roommate (risky I fucking know), and there have been issues that have been building up in my head, but when I want to talk about them, it either ends in her in an outburst of anxiety, or it's always a horrible time to do so.

A few weeks ago she went on a trip to LA for a family event, and before she left she said she'd clean the apartment and buy cat food. Well she didn't, so I had to do both, but when she came back she started crying because her dad was super critical of her and knew how to absolutely shred her confidence. I went into comfort mode because i couldn't start with "hey, you keep saying you'll clean but you don't".

A while back i had an outburst where she was trying to get physical but I just couldn't get it up because my mind was on how messy the place was. I started apologizing and crying and saying I need a clean apartment. We spent the rest of the day cleaning up, but when we were done I said "isn't that bette" and she said "well, I don't feel really any different but I'll do this for you".

A while ago at the start of the whole thing, I tried to call it off because I felt it was way too risky and frankly the initial excitement worn off, but when I tried to tell her, she threw a chair. When I talked to her about it a few days later, she said "at least I didn't bash my head into the wall" as her anxiety has let her to self harm before.

At this point I'm feeling like this might not be the best fit, but I'm terrified that I will push her to hurt herself. At the same time she said if I break up with her she doesn't want to be blind sided. I'm unsure how to show her I'm unhappy without her getting anxious and upset.

She's the kind of person who says what she thinks, and doesn't understand people who can't just tell people when they're unhappy. Frankly I wish I could do that.

Hello all

My (27m) ex (29f) broke up we with me out of the blue saying she doesn't love me how I love her. That I deserve someone who does. Never felt forced doing anything but cannot pinpoint when feeling left.

Had been together 8 months. Went on a vacation at 5 months that was incredible. Had come off a date on Wednesday that she said she loved before she got an Uber home. We were planning the next.

She had come over with the intention to stay and calm down/do homework then had a panic attack until confessing her feeling.

She was crying more than I was. Said she was following the feeling. Agreed you have to do that. But she was adamant it wasn't a specific thing and nothing could change.

Her last relationship was incredibly abusive. I am pretty much the opposite. People think I'm gay. She was the first person I had ever felt drawn towards romantically. First ever asked out instead of falling into the relationship. First ever explore sexuality with where it didn't feel forced.

I had always tried best to communicate any and all feeling. Or issues. She said I was an incredible human being and deserves someone who loved me the same way. But she wasn't in love with me despite loving me. I Didn't do anything. Nothing specific. She just knew I wasn't it.

Talking every day to cold turkey. Communicating every step of the way to make sure each of us weren't being clingy. we both werent that way but it felt natural to be it.

The only thing she managed to muster was ' I don't want to smoke weed and eat candy '. (Additional context: she did dabs I smoked bong hits. Prior and during. upbringing has told her it is bad. It makes her stop and feel. )

The expectations and goals she has for herself made any childish escapism feel like a waste of time. But at the same time she always felt like she was at the point of a panic attack. Like she needed to slow down and relax and take a breath. Incredibly busy. Depressive. Anxious. PTSD recovering. She always goes goes goes.

Incompatible.

Curious if anyone has had a similar experience. It feels like being robbed. I know better than to reach out first. She still has things to pick up. Its just so shocking. Her cars still in the driveway.

I know it's impossible to understand the nuances of a relationship from biased perspective, but I am wanting to hear others experiences.

Hopefully it'll ground me from this very odd shattering im having now. Can't help but feel I got constanzaed. "It's not you it's me."

Appreciate you all and your advice.

I’ve known this woman since we were 15, we’re both 28 now.

Since 2022 we work togheter. Some time ago, she seduced me, again, even though she’s engaged and has kids. But let me explain..:

From 15 to 28, she always seemed interested in me, but never showed it clearly or consistently. I’d message her, she often wouldn’t reply, or sometimes ghost me, but whenever we met in person, like when we’d go for a drive, togheter for homework, motorcycle ride (common in our circle about 10 years ago), she was always physically close, very attentive. Still, she always had this boyfriend.

This is personal but I do suspect that she was looking for someone that could be a good provider for her and her kids, someone who could help her with her inheritance, and someone who is socially skilled to do that. I'm not that person, infact, I'm a sports guy, with more "nature" approach to life, and I don't like to "manipulate" people to get more networking or have goals to be a millionaire.

Fast forward: 1 year ago, I’ve gone through major self-improvement, mostly in looks but also habits, and she had a crush on me. She compliments me daily at work, praises my lifestyle, while publicly complaining about her LTR "going wrong". I've also heard she was getting upset with her BF at the phone, while she was at work. Those we're all signals to let me understand "hey, i'm open and I'm doing this because I need you getting to talk to me, I'm attracted to you", but I never talked to her directly about this, since I was expecting a mature person would actually tell me this directly, without doing those manipulative stuff.

Also, at that same time, she was trying for another child with her current BF, and after she got pregnant, she avoided me, but still sought attention. Then, once her baby was born, she poured all her affection into the child, finding again “the love of her life.” The baby seemed to strengthen her bond with her fiancé, they looked united, as if the child had “fixed” them. Yet, she returned to her hot-and-cold behavior toward me.

Now, seeing her daily at work, I still think about he and try to make sense of those years.

Is her relationship driven by choice, or something like an arranged match approved by her father/family (so she's afraid of leaving her current BF because of all the things she have in place, kids, social, financial, work, etc, not only for her, but also because She cannot stand going indipendent and mature, with a personal choice, but actually accepting her family choice??

She seems unstable, maybe even manipulative or struggling with BPD traits. I just think she sees her fiancé as a safe provider for her and the kids, and it's attracted to me for some other reasons..

What I'd like to do is actually understanding why she didn't talk with me about her feelings, just talking about it, instead of doing all of this "underground" thing. Also, at this point, after I know the truth, I just want to stop thinking about her, about what she does and why, (it will be difficult since we work togheter) and understand why she still occupies my mind, and why I'm attracted to her other than her looks.

To close, I would like to say that this girl has all the qualities to be a good woman, a good family, but obviously no one is perfect, and she simply might have a father who is too "decision-making" about her life, and she is not able to take charge of choosing for herself, but is afraid to do so.

PS: Just to cite something, I call it the motorcycle test. Some women held the back handles, others held on to me. This woman was the only one to held on back handles. She always been kinda shy and intimidated at times.

TL;DR:

I’ve known her since we were 15. Over the years, she’s shown interest but never clarity, always in a relationship, often distant online, yet affectionate in person. Now we work together, and after I improved myself, she reignited the tension between us, despite being engaged with kids. I suspect she’s torn between emotional attraction and practical security. What confuses me most isn’t her choices, but why she never spoke honestly about her feelings. I’m trying to understand her motives and, more importantly, how to free my mind from someone who never truly chose me.

Hi, so I am (18F). My boyfriend is obviously (17M). So, a few days ago, we exchanged messages, which looked like this:

Hey, So, I don't mean to hurt your feelings, but can you not text, call, or hang out much anymore (like only hang out at restaurants)? I just don't like it. Again, I am real sorry to hurt you, I just don't really like communicating via telephone or hanging out. I am very introverted. Thanks <3

He responded with: "Don't worry! You're not hurting my feelings!! I will definitely talk less on the phone if that's what you want and talk more in-person."

I said "That's perfect <3 OK"

And all he sent yesterday was "Hi!" and not much else and I told him I couldn't talk so he stopped messaging altogether except for "hi, have a great day" or even just "Hi".

i feel like they can't expect me to do what they want in the relationship (spend more time with them and not friends and Super Mario/Nintendo games) but rather they should do what i want, which is just play with me and realize i can't be there for them.

i wouldn't call myself a Nintendo addict, but i do play for very long hours without even talking to my partner. yes, i've seen the other gaming post as a fedi lurker, but i also have a similar relationship. i don't talk to them because i'm so absorbed in my game that i forget and don't even think about them. i only think about them when i'm not playing a game, which is admittedly rarely, though i would never tell them this.

i can't be there for them when they're upset nor can i talk to them through their depression and anxiety because i'm busy on a game, but i really feel like they should give gaming a try. it's a fun form of escapism and shooters and Super Mario really help.

Cross-posted from "What do I do?" by @relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club in !lesbians@lemmy.blahaj.zone

So my girlfriend "Lily" hasn't texted me in over a week. I can tell she is alright and receiving my messages, as it says she has read them, but she won't respond, even if I send something romantic like "I love you" or just say something like "let me know when you can hang out".

Lily is usually busy and will text me "Sorry can't talk right now" and that will be the end of our conversation. My friends, however, said that this is suspicious and means she doesn't WANT to talk because if she couldn't talk right NOW she would at least answer later instead of just reading it. ' I have no idea, it's been a week and I haven't heard from her.

so my girlfriend and i made up and we hung out yesterday. i had one long/series of weird dreams about her. the ones i remember is that i had a sleepover at her house and i watched her sleep, weirdly.

keep in mind that whenever i develop a deep attraction to someone, i end up having this dream.

then, i had a new dream i never had before. first, it was the same old dream where i got kissed on the cheek, a dream i usually have when i'm attracted to someone.

later, i had a dream where i woke up and my gf was lying over me. i felt her teeth on my neck and i moaned. she giggled and continued to suck on the skin until it left a mark and i looked in the mirror. then, we had to work on having to hide the mark.

(yep, talking about an ex part 2. not the same ex)

so, my friend called one of my exes "julia" a mean person.

my friend then called her a mean person, but in my opinion, she just had a lot of problems. she could be a really nice person for all i knew, but her mental health was clouding her judgment and personality.

Hi, so I'm a high school student and I happen to be trans FtM. I know I'm quite young, but I do believe in the importance of supporting trans people, even young people just in general.

I was born a girl (obviously) but now I'm a guy named Anthony. When I came out to my social worker "Mrs. A" (not her real name or initial), she said that she was proud of me for coming out, but that if I wanted teachers to refer to me as "male", "he/him", Anthony, etc. that I'd have to come out to my legal guardian.

The thing is my guardian isn't the most supportive of trans people. I came out to him a few years ago and he said I was just a confused girl and that "the left was just pushing their agenda onto me". He loves me, I'm sure he does, but he definitely wouldn't support me.

I told my therapist and a good friend of mine and both of them said that was breaking a rule of confidentiality. My sister told me that too. My therapist wonders if it's to get it changed on paperwork or something but says that if I want to be called Anthony at school, there should be no problem.

What do you all think?