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I hope we all know this and are just doing it as a bit, but sometimes I do see shit on this website that makes me go “Oh y’all are genuinely just weird prudes”

The “gooner epidemic” is not real, gooning is an incredibly niche kink that very few people engage in.

“Porn addiction” is basically non existent and affects such a small portion of the population as to not be relevant. The idea that most people have in their heads about porn addiction is propaganda made up by evangelicals.

We do not live in an overly-sexually-liberated time. There is not an excess of sexual content or exposure to it.

Most of the time when people talk about “the gooner problem” what they’re actually talking about is a mix of two unrelated things, people living normal sexually liberated lives, and undersocialized young men that don’t know how to interact with people.

Sex is good. We should be having more of it. We should encourage healthy, safe sex featuring whatever kinks you and your partner(s) consent to. Don’t fall for puritan propaganda comrades.

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[-] bennieandthez@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 1 hour ago

I don't know what a gooner is but i have to disagree with the "porn addiction is not real" statement. It's a very real thing, and like other addictions, people simply refuse to admit they have a problem.

As a male i've had to endure porn talks throughout my life, from my high school circle, to my college circle, to my coworker circle, to catching my uncles watching porn, to every single random countryside worker. Literally every conversation with men ends up about porn or homophobia.

No kidding but at some point i had to watch porn as "research" just in case i had to talk about it in a drinking game or something, because "name porn genres" is something that always comes up in drinking games. How is this not real?

[-] aeshna_cyanea@lemm.ee 5 points 5 hours ago

undersocialized young men that don’t know how to interact with people

as an undersocialized enby I feel erased and unappreciated

[-] buh@hexbear.net 4 points 5 hours ago

Gooning is endemic now because the government ended goon lockdowns too early

[-] BeamBrain@hexbear.net 9 points 11 hours ago

Is gooning even an actual thing? It sounds more like a comedy bit that got taken too seriously and became something "everyone knows" than something that actually happens. Like "kids eat Tide Pods" or "furries are using litter boxes at schools."

[-] ClimateStalin@hexbear.net 3 points 3 hours ago

Technically yes, but it’s a very niche kink that not that many people actually engage in. Like imagine if vore was blown up in media until everyone was worried about the vore epidemic. Thats about the same level.

[-] Damarcusart@hexbear.net 31 points 16 hours ago

Relatively new account.

Calls out hexbear site culture in a backhanded way, implying this is a problem that can be "fixed".

Makes very bold statements, the only source being a random tiktok video.

Conflates leftist ideas about women not being overly sexualised with right wing puritanical beliefs.

Makes very basic feel-good statements that don't commit to a strong position, AKA the "liberal politician" approach.

Acts as if they are just "helpfully reminding" hexbear to "be more normal" and "not fall for propaganda" while basically telling us to not worry and support status quo ideas.

Not sure if I should go "seen-this-one" or "fedposting" either way, this is some lame ass bait. Not everyone obsesses over how much people get laid as you do dude, get over it.

[-] GeneralSwitch2Boycott@hexbear.net 24 points 16 hours ago

That video also uses the "female prostitution is the oldest profession" line too, which is not true and also clearly the exact kind of right-wing propaganda as "gooning is an epidemic" is.

[-] Damarcusart@hexbear.net 12 points 16 hours ago

Yeah, I don't know how anyone can watch these sorts of nerd umm acktually... kind of smug pseudo intellectual tiktok videos. Even if I agree with a video, the sheer smugness and self-righteousness of this sort of content is so offputting. Tiktok is an awful place.

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[-] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 41 points 17 hours ago

Sex is not bad, nor is being sexually liberated.

However sex and sexuality as it it treated under our current society is highly misogynistic and exploitative.

"Oh stop being a prude" is definitely a phrase uttered to many young women in the entertainment industry to shame her into exploiting her body for capital.

[-] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 14 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

For anyone reading this who needs to hear it, it's very possible to become addicted to anything that causes you to experience a dopamine high. That's kinda the point of dopamine as I understand it: it makes you want to do something again. If your relationship with that activity becomes dysfunctional, you could very easily find that your desire to engage with it has become a need to engage with it without you even noticing the shift until you try to stop. The chuddy framing of a "gooner epidemic" where the blame for it is shifted to sex workers and sexual liberation is wrong. From my perspective, there seems to be an epidemic of untreated addiction in general where I am driven by the slow collapse of civil society in the imperial core. So please don't avoid facing and seeking help if you need it for harmful addictions just because the subject of your addiction is usually perfectly healthy in moderation.

Edit: for some topical comic relief

For the damn bot: https://yewtu.be/watch?v=5mhk252Zqm8

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[-] mendiCAN@hexbear.net 10 points 15 hours ago

oh hey i skipped this when i saw it before cuz i thought it was just /c/badposting. now I'm here cuz dirt_owl and it's just a bad take highlighting a non-existent problem.

[-] dil@hexbear.net 25 points 18 hours ago

l don't think porn is categorically problematic. I think the content of the porn and the worldview that it espouses can absolutely be harmful, though.

I'd compare it to saying stand-up comedy is good or bad. It's neither. Stand-up comedy is a genre, and within it are smart folks doing great work AND chuds spewing hate.

My problem with porn is that it often objectifies women and primes men to view women as sex objects.

I think many men don't have actual friends that are women, and primarily engage with women romantically or sexually (and tbh, I don't think most men are self-aware enough to distinguish between the two).

The media we consume (porn included) influences our worldview. If men watch porn (or stand-up) that has misogynist undertones and don't have friends that are women as a counterbalance, I think they will trend towards a misogynist worldview.

[-] Awoo@hexbear.net 94 points 22 hours ago

Volcel vanguard has nothing to with gooning. It came about because redditors are mostly porn-brained males that can't stop making spaces on reddit uncomfortable for women at literally every single opportunity. Volcel vanguard spawned as a meme to shame people and counter that on the CTH subreddit.

It is useful and it is good and people absolutely do need to be told to shut the fuck up about it or else you end up with spaces that are made entirely uncomfortable for everyone else.

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[-] Alaskaball@hexbear.net 46 points 21 hours ago

Still upset at the kids for sexualizing the word Goon.

I can no longer call me and my possee the Goon squad

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[-] Zoift@hexbear.net 11 points 16 hours ago

"Gooning this" & "gooning that", read the literature liberals. Whacking off is solved theory, Just build a metal & wood veneer box to jack it in. Orgone theory has already spelled all this out for over 100 years.

[-] psychoplantkiller@hexbear.net 29 points 19 hours ago
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[-] CthulhusIntern@hexbear.net 17 points 18 hours ago

Some of these comments here really make it seem like the word "gooning" is just the word "dgenercy" rebranded.

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