Yes.

I used to be very anti-gay because I was raised religious. One day, someone explained to me that gay people feel exactly the same feelings as straight people, it's just they're directed differently. Somehow, that made it all click and it just made sense.

I'm glad that age has given me the comfort to tell people when I just don't know, and therefore, don't have an opinion on some things.

I used to be very wrong about trans people until I talked to a trans person for about 3 minutes

When I realized it had nothing to do with sexualization and all about identity I stopped, apologized and asked a bunch of questions

My interlocutor kind of didn't know how to handle it and it took a moment for them to defuse, as I'm sure they were expecting shouting or worse. After that we had a real meaningful conversation that gave me a lot to think about.

At this point in my life, I’m extremely comfortable admitting when I’m wrong. It earns credibility.

Yeah, I think everyone has. Unless they are astoundingly arrogant.

I almost always immediately admit that I am wrong, if I notice it. I do it often.

"You are right, I didn't consider x".

Why the hell would I insist on being right? It serves no purpose. It also just makes me seem like an unlikable idiot.

People always react positively, and it makes constructive discussions possible. They now know that I am a reasonable rational person. They also know that I have good intentions. This makes it possible for me to convince them in the future as well. Everybody benefits.

One where I realized I was wrong three times. My wife and I had visited a modern art museum. One of the installations was a pile of candy in the corner. We got home, I said it's ridiculous to call that art, and ridiculous to fund artists to create lazy, self-indulgent nonsense. She convinced me that I am in no position to arbitrate what is or isn't art (she is right, of course). Then I realized she wasn't arguing about art, she was upset about something that had happened at work (that was my second miss).

Twenty years later I found out what that candy is all about. It was a piece by Felix Gonzalez Torres called "Untitled (Portrait of Ross in LA) 1991" It is 175 lbs of candy that patrons are free to take. It represents his lover, Ross Laycock, who had wasted away from AIDS earlier that year (Gonzalez Torres would die from AIDS six years later). So long as there is funding for the arts, Ross is replenished endlessly. For the third miss, I was Oedipean-level wrong.

Sure, it happens all the time. Someone shows me a piece of evidence that I trust, or points out that I missed something in what they had originally said, or whatever. What else is there to do in that situation other then go 'Oh. You're right, my bad.'?

But I'm kinda weird, I enjoy having my beliefs and ideas challenged and I have no problem admitting when I'm wrong and updating my worldview to reflect the most accurate information I have access to.

Oh yeah. Happens to me not infrequently, though less as I get older and choose my battles more wisely.

On my best days, I apologize and bow out of the discussion. On my worst days, I just ghost the entire thread.

No, this hasn't happened to me. And it's not because I can't admit that I'm wrong. I just don't get into arguments unless I am very well versed on the topic. If I'm not sufficiently versed, then I will do additional research before staking a position. I can confidently say that I have never had to reverse myself partway through because I always come from a position of thought and knowledge and don't wade in lightly.

Except, now that I think about it, there was one time where I was completely mistaken on a political topic. I won't go into details here, but I guess I really blew that. So just the one time.

Hmm, I'm remembering another incident upon reflecting on the first. I was in a rush and didn't think about my position very carefully before calling the other guy a Nazi crybaby. Turns out his dad died fighting the Nazis in North Africa, and he had been carrying the mantle ever since.

But other than that, no, I have never reversed myself mid argument because I always think carefully before typing something out, especially if it is going to be long.

I've had it happen before but I can't think of any specific examples.

My reaction to it however has evolved over time. When I was younger I'd be way more embarrassed over it and just stop debating, accepting defeat at the next opportunity, only to shrink away in shame.

Nowadays though, I'll still be embarrassed, but immediately admit fault, laugh at my stupidity and issue any necessary retraction. People are usually disarmed when you can admit you were wrong and they were right. Even more if you throw a little joke about being dumb or something in there.

Yes. My partner at the time had brought something up and I started to disagree.

Mid retort I realized I was speaking from my shitty upbringing again, paused to mull that over, and then rejected my own retort right there in front of her.

It's not often anymore, but I'm still surprised by the occasional stupid idea put into my head by religious indoctrination as a know nothing child that I have to deprogram from even decades later.

How did your interlocutor react?

She values my ability to self reflect on the spot like that, so she reacted with love.

How would you like someone to react if you concede errors?

Without malice.

Yeah. If I think the person isn’t being a dick I apologise.

Have you ever written a proof, only to disproof your original statement in the end?

Several times! And not necessarily wrong, but missing a perspective that changes my opinion. That’s how we learn and grow. It’s also why you and more people should read books.

The only times I struggle to admit I'm wrong is if my interlocutor has an attitude I find grating. Sometimes in online debates I just don't reply and give people the last word instead of continuing a heated conversation if I think they have a point.

Otherwise happy to admit that I'm wrong if someone cites a study or whatever that says something counter to what I'm claiming.

Not like wrong wrong, most of my big realisations happen by myself. I consider recognising others points and being willing to modify my ideas when appropriate an invaluable cognitive skill. It's more difficult sometimes than others, but I'm not going to end up as a closed minded old man at least.

that's what they're supposed to be for

Not surprisingly, people who couldn't admit when they were wrong didn't come into this thread and admit that they have been wrong.

On several occasions, it has hit me like a truck and I’ve instantly reversed my thinking. For this reason, I am open to listening genuinely to other sides, so long as they are not intolerant. But I’m a petty bitch, so I still have strong opinions until they get flipped.

I have never had this happen because I have never made a mistake once /s

Absolutely! And I kid you not, it’s one of my favorite experiences, for a few reasons.

First, there’s an instant feeling of relief. I immediately have the power to conclude the argument (debate, discussion, whatever) with a productive result. There’s no burden of truth or anything that remains. I was just wrong! The only possible thing left to discuss might be why, like if there was a miscommunication or something, but otherwise, poof! Done and dusted.

Second, a bit more selfishly, it’s a chance to demonstrate how OK with being wrong I truly am, which most people simply find it hard to believe until they’ve seen it for themselves. So I’ve learned to jump on these opportunities aggressively, in case I miss the window due an additional thread of conversation I can’t agree with or because for some reason they acknowledge a misunderstanding first, after which my change of mind loses some luster (again, selfish, but I’m being honest here).

Third, sometimes the other person flips to take my original stance, like “not so fast!” and that just makes the original debate more fun, because then we’ve both acknowledged that being right isn’t really that important. They result is a more demonstrably pure discussion with seeking truth as the goal, rather than a zero-sum match of wits with a “winner” and a “loser.”

There are additional reasons and scenarios, depending on the context, but the ones I mention above are pretty consistent. The point is that being wrong is a trophy to add to your collection of all the times you learned something and, by that token, became slightly less wrong than you were before.

Edit: flesh out #2 a bit more, especially with respect to why immediacy might matter to me personally.

Somewhat regularly with my wife. Not in a "wife bad" way, more "wife smart". If it's heated she can struggle with cooling off. But usually it's fine

When that realization moment happens, it’s like flipping a switch. Like losing steam, getting past the anger. I tend to get quiet and actually listen/empathize instead of trying to win the argument. I also quiet down due to feeling ashamed of being wrong. I have no problems saying “sorry” if that’s the case.

Being wrong is a great way to learn. Everyone is wrong sometimes, so I don’t see it as a flaw to be ashamed of. I think the best way to handle being wrong is to acknowledge it and treat it as a learning opportunity.

If this hasn’t happened to you then you are probably full of hubris

I try to admit I am wrong generally but I do not always because I have some hubris because I am crappy sometimes. Sometimes the people on the other side are graceful in their “winning” and sometimes not

I have a tendency to mix things together, especially if the two things getting mixed in my mind are already pretty similar. Sometimes I realize this mid-way through a sentence.

No....wait, yes.